You don't need to be so defensive.
He clearly wasn't talking about those in your position:
"people who have enriched themselves in the past, through not having had the children they should have had"
Speaking for most people, miscarriages and other infant mortality are NOT considered by anyone "not having the children you should have had". Who goes up to a woman who's had a miscarriage and shakes their finger, "You should have seen that child to term!" give me a break!
That's a textbook definition of "out of my hands", "God's will" or, the Exception Which Proves the Rule.
Thank you for the good defense. Incidentally, my wife and I had at least one miscarriage, probably others as well.
People who have deliberately refrained from having children they should have had, know who they are. Deep down they know "yes, we took the high road", and if they function the way a Catholic should function, they will feel remorse and wish there were some way they could undo it. I offer the voluntary giving of assistance to Catholics who
do obey the Church's teachings and
are struggling to raise large families, as one thing they could do, in some small way, to set things right (assuming they are no longer of childbearing age and "it's too late"). Kids cost money --- boy oh boy, do they ever! If you've refused to have children you could have afforded to have --- even if it would have meant living a more modest lifestyle --- then in some way you've been enriched, and to this day you enjoy the benefits of that wealth, ill-gotten though it was.