Author Topic: I Need Some Advice (Read 5498 times)

Philomene Marie · « **on:** January 15, 2013, 02:43:52 PM »

I am a Junior in High School and have to start thinking about colleges and scholarships and everything else that goes with that. All I really want to do is get married and have a family and stay at home and raise my kids. But my parents want me to go to college. I am not opposed to going to college for Teaching but I'm torn between going to college around where I live or going to St. Mary's in Kansas. I know if I am meant to be married my future husband is out there somewhere and I may or may not have met him yet; and if I haven't God will make sure I do. But I really don't know if I should go to college around where I live or go to St. Mary's. Any thoughts?

Domitilla · « **Reply #1 on:** January 15, 2013, 03:40:21 PM »

The best thing to do after graduating from high school is to attend a 2 year community college in your hometown (and continue to live at home). As you progress in your studies, it will become clear what your next step should be.

michaela benedicta · « **Reply #2 on:** January 15, 2013, 04:06:40 PM »

Good post, Domitilla!!

Yes, go to a community college first...that way, you can "try it out" without the pressure of BIG college life...plus, you get to stay near your "home base" and the Sacraments.

A teaching degree will be beneficial, you will be able to use it with your future children!!

You will be in my prayers!!

Love,

+michaela

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #3 on:** January 15, 2013, 04:32:27 PM »

Philomene,

I will pray for you.

I felt the exact same way at your age.

Vladimir · « **Reply #4 on:** January 15, 2013, 04:35:57 PM »

St. Mary's in Kansas (the SSPX college) is not accredited to my knowledge. If you are going for college for the degree, that choice is very imprudent.

Community college OR university - if you have the financial aid. If a teaching degree is your goal, you might be able to take care of prerequisites at a community college.

College is do-able if you have scholarships.

Living at home saves a lot of money. If you must live away from home, try renting a room or apartment.. If you look on university websites, almost half the projected cost is the money you pay to live on campus. If you can find another option that is cheaper, take advantage of it.

I highly disagree with the idea that college will make "mince-meat" out of traditional Catholics that are steady in their faith. University campuses have plenty of places that you can avoid the crowd and study on your own. Oftentimes, their library systems are extensive and have plenty of good Catholic books to study in your spare time.

In short, if you aren't one to go with the crowd looking for a good time, squandering your parents money at Starbucks, shopping, going to parties, etc not a lot of people will want to "hang out" with you and the feeling will be mutual. If you are really considering college, just consider it from a practical and financial side - i.e., what you want to do with a degree. Don't be anxious about the environment. At least not overly anxious.

* I am currently in University as well. Just out of high school.