Author Topic: I Need Some Advice (Read 5491 times)

ShepherdofSheep · « **Reply #40 on:** January 16, 2013, 10:41:28 PM »

It's that way at our church too- very few available Catholic men. I always wonder if that is supposed to be a sign that I ought to stay single or it's just a temporary obstacle to marriage. There's more to it than that, but still...

I think I would have a hard time finding someone no matter what. I've not seen very many trad Catholic men who are agriculturally-minded- that is a very huge deal to me. I do not want to live in the city or suburbs. I have to be around livestock and working them- that's just me. I'd like somebody who is scientifically minded, and loves to discuss fecundity and color genetics of sheep, biochemistry and endocrinology of livestock reproduction, the latest techniques in sheep artificial insemination and embryo transfer, etc. I'd need to be involved in that sort of thing somehow. He'd have to be supportive of homeschooling. He'd really have to be fond of sheep and wrap newborn lambs in his coat when carrying them to the house to warm them up on a freezing winter night. :)

And that's not even considering the most important things! I don't think that's being picky, I think that's just recognizing who you are and some traits that you think are important for him to possess in order to be compatible with you. I am unusual in that I have INTENSE interests in those areas, and naturally would be very unhappy if I couldn't pursue them in some way.

Obviously I am single and not looking, but that's not to say that if I met the right gentleman, I wouldn't marry. Advice on the matter I don't have. I wish you the best, however. I'm sure that if it's your calling, Our Lady will find you a great one!

Tiffany · « **Reply #41 on:** January 17, 2013, 06:11:09 AM »

Quote from: Philomene Marie

Well I have three good guy friends at my church, however one thinks he has a vocation to be a priest, one is 21 and planning on like 10 more years of college and is NOT interested in getting married and the other one I have never asked. So it's not that they are unappealing they are just not interested in getting married anytime soon. There is also a shortage of good Catholic gentlemen at my church.

Like I wrote before don't limit yourself to men your age. There are men in their thirties - seventies that are prepared to marry. You don't need to worry about finding a husband on your own, simply speak to your priest and your parents.

Gimli · « **Reply #42 on:** January 19, 2013, 05:01:50 AM »

To my dear unmarried sisters in Christ. I really hope and pray that you will find your devout traditional husband in the future. Me myself, Im a young unmarried man with love for the Traditional faith who lives in Scandinavia. Traditional catholic women do not grow on threes in the North of Europe. But I hope and pray. I also wanted to write that I get so impress by your devolution and strong discipline and I relate a lot to what you are saying, because I experience it everyday myself in university and at my work. I feel stronger in my faith when I know I have sisters out there in the godforsaken world that shares the same values and faith

jen51 · « **Reply #43 on:** January 19, 2013, 07:47:36 PM »

Quote from: ShepherdofSheep

It's that way at our church too- very few available Catholic men. I always wonder if that is supposed to be a sign that I ought to stay single or it's just a temporary obstacle to marriage. There's more to it than that, but still...

I think I would have a hard time finding someone no matter what. I've not seen very many trad Catholic men who are agriculturally-minded- that is a very huge deal to me. I do not want to live in the city or suburbs. I have to be around livestock and working them- that's just me. I'd like somebody who is scientifically minded, and loves to discuss fecundity and color genetics of sheep, biochemistry and endocrinology of livestock reproduction, the latest techniques in sheep artificial insemination and embryo transfer, etc. I'd need to be involved in that sort of thing somehow. He'd have to be supportive of homeschooling. He'd really have to be fond of sheep and wrap newborn lambs in his coat when carrying them to the house to warm them up on a freezing winter night. :)

And that's not even considering the most important things! I don't think that's being picky, I think that's just recognizing who you are and some traits that you think are important for him to possess in order to be compatible with you. I am unusual in that I have INTENSE interests in those areas, and naturally would be very unhappy if I couldn't pursue them in some way.

Obviously I am single and not looking, but that's not to say that if I met the right gentleman, I wouldn't marry. Advice on the matter I don't have. I wish you the best, however. I'm sure that if it's your calling, Our Lady will find you a great one!

I know of a few ag-trads who would more than likely consider you quite a catch, SOS. I agree with you that they are few and far between. The young men I am thinking of, who are at my parish are bigtime cattlemen and I imagine they would want a helpmeet to homeschool their children and assist them on the farm. I doubt they would want a gal who minded getting dirty. For farmers and ranchers, a wife with farm knowledge is very valuable.

Nathan · « **Reply #44 on:** January 27, 2013, 05:11:41 AM »

Quote from: Philomene Marie

I am a Junior in High School and have to start thinking about colleges and scholarships and everything else that goes with that. All I really want to do is get married and have a family and stay at home and raise my kids. But my parents want me to go to college. I am not opposed to going to college for Teaching but I'm torn between going to college around where I live or going to St. Mary's in Kansas. I know if I am meant to be married my future husband is out there somewhere and I may or may not have met him yet; and if I haven't God will make sure I do. But I really don't know if I should go to college around where I live or go to St. Mary's. Any thoughts?

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Thank you all so much for your college advice! Do you happen to have any about finding a husband?

Your desires and requests are highly commendable. You are certainly ahead of the crowd. Many have already given you sound advice on college and husband hunting; but I have a few suggestions, if it please you.

Concerning college, in your particular case (from what I have read), I would opt for the community college fifteen minutes from your home. I think it is the way to go if you just want a degree for more future stability. Some reasons in favor are: more parental support/guidance, traditional Sacraments that are more easily accessible, affordability, etc.

As for finding a husband: have you ever thought of volunteering to help out a traditional Catholic family somewhere? I know of a few young ladies who are doing this; here are some of the benefits you could derive:

1. You would be able to live in another parish for a while, where there would certainly be several young men to make your acquaintance; :wink:

2. You would be helping out one of those poor, overwhelmed traditional mothers out there, who would be delighted to have someone like you to assist them;

3. You would be learning many valuable skills such as cooking, cleaning, organizing, and homeschooling from a veteran mother who would be more than glad to impart them to you.

To coordinate this the best thing to do is to call the prior of a selected parish and ask him to announce (or post on a bulletin) that there is a young lady desiring to help a family that would be willing to take her in. It works. I know a young lady from my parish who will be doing this for a large family in New Zealand soon. As a matter of fact, we had someone from the Dominican's parish in Avrille, France come over and stay for a while.

Anyways, I hope this is helpful. God bless you.

P.S. I think you may (although I could be wrong) end up waiting until your twenties to marry, and it will probably be a someone in his mid or late twenties, since we young men must acquire financial stability, according to our various talents, before looking for a helpmate. But time passes quickly, be assured!