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As a girl who has grown up within the SSPX, I have firsthand experience that some of the higher-ups in the SSPX like to push young Catholics into making choices that they will regret later in life. And before anyone comes at me, yeah life isn't easy, and never will be. I have seen too many unhappy marriages over the years and I have come to the point where I no longer believe that marriage is even an option for me. Almost every week at Church my pastor talks about young people having two choices, religious life, or marriage, and if you don't choose either of the two you are selfish. How is that even fair, neither of them is 100% guaranteed. I could get rejected by the convents OR there will be ZERO men that I'm even interested in, or aren’t my cup of tea if you know what I mean. And I know there will be older married people on here going to think “You’re young you don’t know what marriage is like” which is true, but how many of the couples on here were also rushed into marriage? Marrying someone you dated/courted for 4 months sounds like a recipe for disaster. And not to mention that that same couple probably doesn’t even have enough income to support a family. Instead of bothering the guys in the parishes to find a girl, tell them to find a major in college or a good-paying job, something that will benefit them in the long run. These are real issues that are never addressed, people turn a blind eye to them because it’s been normalized. If I want to get married I want a guy with a job, a house, and financial security, is that too much to ask? I’m not asking for millions, I’m asking for a home that we can stay in forever, money for our kids to feed them and to go to college and pursue what God wanted for them. It’s not rocket science, it’s simply planning for the future. Also, can we please stop the idea that it’s vain to take care of your appearance? NONE of the guys at my parish are interested or even have the care to work out or be fit. So in conclusion, stop trying to rush young Catholics into decisions that are life-changing, please...