About 10 years ago I met some Traditional Catholics in my area through prolife work, but they lacked charity and I was turned off from the Latin Mass because of their fanatical and judgmental ways. I have forgiven them, and I am now starting to believe that they were just poor and weak messengers, and I decided to take another look at the Traditional Catholic groups.
That seems to happen a good bit. I'm so glad you've heard His call over all the noise, and that you've found some thoughtful assistance here.
People take the firmness and insular ways of traditional Catholics as being uncharitable. The church is in crisis by the evil let in, and by weak men. If you're truly seeking the Truth and show you are genuine, people will take the time with you. Listen, learn.
Strong men and firm and direct. Too much confusion and sin is cause by ambiguity. If firmness and assertiveness bugs you, good. Let it rub off on you. We need more strong faithful men. Too many are weak, give into sin and lead others down the wrong paths.
Women and families are insular for good reason. The world is full of distractions and detractors that lead to sin.
Confession, pray rosary daily, attend mass weekly and often as possible. You will get discernment.
To be a man, is sacrifice.