The problem here is straight-up feminism, "my body, my choice" and notice that the man is being assigned blame by the feminist enabler here. This is what happens when relations and other people make excuses for feminine immorality.
Well, assuming there is only one person to blame, there is a good chance he is the one to blame, since there are only two people involved.
If the blame is shared, then I am blaming him because he is the one posting and asking for advice. Blaming his wife is not constructive. Obviously she is at fault for getting an IUD, but she's not asking for advice.
Let's assume that you, Tele, are completely correct in your views of how to deal with women and Gooch brings home a stick as thin as his finger and gives her a damn good spanking, or stands there and uses phrases, like exceedingly evil, interloper, ungodly and vicious attack.
How is Mrs Gooch going to react. Here is a women who after the last baby had a coil fitted. She's hardly likely to agree with her husband and run off to fetch his pipe and slippers. Softly, softly catch a monkey.
There is a reason you have never had a girlfriend or a wife Tele and it is because you lack empathy. You lack an understanding that to get from A to B is sometimes a journey. People don't just beam there like Captain Kirk. You probably scare the living crap out of women for this reason.
I've made millions of dollars in business by changing people's minds and making them think about things from a different perspective. I know a thing or two about practical human psychology and insisting on a person eating and entire moral menu all at once is a good way to guarantee they will vomit it up.
Here lies the body of William Day.
Who died maintaining his right of way.
He was right, dead right as he sped along,
But he is just as dead, as if he were wrong.