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Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« on: July 06, 2023, 03:31:01 PM »
In my Church there are very few single girls.

Where should I search?

Tips to succeed with catholic trad girls?

What is it that attracts them?

How should do I court a catholic trad girl

Tips to avoid "problematic" girls? like promiscuous girls or that break the marriage when there are problems instead of solving them. This is very common today in the West, for example Spain has a divorce rate of 86%, when there is a serious problem or just bored people get divorced. I also don't want the marriage to become a continuous combat.

I'm not good at picking up on people's true intentions.

I have no flirting experience and I don't know what to talk to a girl about to keep her interested.

Any help is welcome.

God Bless.

Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« Reply #1 on: July 06, 2023, 05:29:16 PM »
For starters, don’t flirt. Girls who flirt look like airheads.  Boys who flirt look like 🌈.
Just be yourself.  See a girl who interests you?  (Other than just looks!)  Go introduce yourself and tell her what attracted you, like her interest in books, how she treats others, her friendliness, sense of humor, etc.  Be natural and sincere.
Maybe sit down and have coffee across from her after mass.  “Do you mind if I sit here?”  How does she reply?   If positively, make a little small talk by asking questions about her.  Where does she live?  How many siblings?  What about her school or job?  Any special goals, hobbies?  Unless she asks back, say very little about yourself.  Keep the introduction short, 10 minutes, tops, in the presence of others.  End by “needing to go now” even if you don’t.  Go talk to your parents, or go to the car.  Don’t just run off, however.  Say, “Nice to meet you.” Shake her hand if it’s customary.  “Hope to see you next Sunday.”  (Or next month, next Mass…)  If she’s just visiting or passing through, and you REALLY like her, it’s probably okay to request her email.  
Another suggestion is attend one of the young people’s gatherings. There are at least two listed here on CI in the last month.  You might also try online.  Personally, I’d never even consider that, but I’m old.


Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« Reply #2 on: July 06, 2023, 05:30:51 PM »
Drolo, there have been many threads on CI like the one you have started. Maybe someone here can point you to those.

But, of course, as you already know the first step is prayer.
St Joseph is your first port of call.
Then Raphael the Archangel. If you are not familiar with him, read the Book of Tobit.

If you are meant to marry, as most of us are, God will send a good woman your way. I will pray for that.

Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2023, 05:41:12 PM »
In my Church there are very few single girls.

Where should I search?

Then I would start right where you are.
What communications do you have with these young single woman? Have you made approaches to any of them?


Re: Tips to meet a trad Catholic girl for marriage?
« Reply #4 on: July 06, 2023, 05:50:25 PM »
Forgive me for not offering an actual answer to your question, but have you seriously considered the religious or priestly vocation?