In my Church there are very few single girls.Then I would start right where you are.
Where should I search?
In my Church there are very few single girls.
Where should I search?
Tips to succeed with catholic trad girls?
What is it that attracts them?
How should do I court a catholic trad girl
Tips to avoid "problematic" girls? like promiscuous girls or that break the marriage when there are problems instead of solving them. This is very common today in the West, for example Spain has a divorce rate of 86%, when there is a serious problem or just bored people get divorced. I also don't want the marriage to become a continuous combat.
I'm not good at picking up on people's true intentions.
I have no flirting experience and I don't know what to talk to a girl about to keep her interested.
Any help is welcome.
God Bless.
In my Church there are very few single girls.Many of the other people have given good tips. I started to write a post yesterday before anyone else had said anything but duty and babies called me away.
Where should I search?
Tips to succeed with catholic trad girls?
What is it that attracts them?
How should do I court a catholic trad girl
Tips to avoid "problematic" girls? like promiscuous girls or that break the marriage when there are problems instead of solving them. This is very common today in the West, for example Spain has a divorce rate of 86%, when there is a serious problem or just bored people get divorced. I also don't want the marriage to become a continuous combat.
I'm not good at picking up on people's true intentions.
I have no flirting experience and I don't know what to talk to a girl about to keep her interested.
Any help is welcome.
God Bless.
There are many females in the Novus Ordo who are willing to attend TLM, and become traditional Catholic with some prompting and education.Bad advice. Novus Ordo women may attend the TLM but they hardly ever become a true Trad. A typical novus ordo person (man or woman) doesn't believe in such things as (the true Fatima message, infiltration in the Church, evilness of the new mass, the deliberate protestantization of the Church, etc). If someone doesn't understand "why" Traditionalism exists, then no matter how much they love the TLM, eventually you will have problems in your marriage because your worldviews are too different.
Bad advice. Novus Ordo women may attend the TLM but they hardly ever become a true Trad. A typical novus ordo person (man or woman) doesn't believe in such things as (the true Fatima message, infiltration in the Church, evilness of the new mass, the deliberate protestantization of the Church, etc). If someone doesn't understand "why" Traditionalism exists, then no matter how much they love the TLM, eventually you will have problems in your marriage because your worldviews are too different.The key phrase being "with some prompting and education." If she shows interest and aptitude, then you might have something. If she doesn't, then you definitely don't. I think the point is just to help OP understand that the pool of eligible women isn't restricted only to women who already have everything figured out.
Be certain that you are actually ready to take on a wife and children. Women today are less likely to enter into marriage with a man who isn't ready financially, emotionally, or spiritually. I would say that you should ensure that you are an attractive prospect for a virtuous woman of sound mind.
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Are you established in a career or are you still trying to figure that out?
Do you have the prospect of being able to provide an adequate home for a family that is in a safe area?
Are you able to manage money wisely (especially important if you are a low-income earner)?
Do you have a good relationship with your mother or is it problematic? Is she clingy or likely to cause trouble?
Do you pray the Rosary daily? Do you have enough knowledge of the faith to lead a family in prayers and formation?
Do you support homeschooling or have the ability to provide a Catholic education through a school?
Are you physically healthy and able to perform the duties necessary for providing for and maintaining the household?
Are your friends married or do you hang with committed bachelors or those of dubious character?
When you go to Mass do you dress well, in a suit with clean dress shoes or more causally? This matters to many women as it projects an image of the man's character.
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These suggestions are of a more material nature but are things that a marriage-minded woman might be looking at as well as the other suggestions. If you are known to be good "husband material" ladies will naturally be drawn to you making your search easier.
Take note of the relationship she has with her cell phone. Is it out in social settings? Does she text when she should be giving her attention to the people she is with? If you have her number, does she text you throughout the day? Is she unable to leave her phone for any length of time? What kind of wife and mother would a cell phone addict make?This is one of the most overlooked aspects regarding women these days. In my opinion and experience, if she uses any form of social media too much and entertains the attention of non-Catholic men for any reason at all, then you should steer clear of her. If she uses social media and you still decide to continue talking to her, you will need to tell her to delete it at some point down the road before you even consider marrying her. If she won't delete it, then you should walk away. Stick to your guns on any boundaries you have with her.
What is it that attracts them?Drolo, you have asked the age-old question here. Men don't know, and women don't either. Lol.
Then I would start right where you are.So little, because I didn't know what to say. I will try what Seraphina said, although there isn't a bar very close and I 'm should'n't to follow people on the street, I would seem like a stalker. I'll try to talk to someone at the exit with Seraphina tips to see what happens.
What communications do you have with these young single woman? Have you made approaches to any of them?
Forgive me for not offering an actual answer to your question, but have you seriously considered the religious or priestly vocation?Honestly, I don't see myself as a priest and I don't have any sign of that is my vocation.
Be very careful about getting into a marriage. The statistics are very bad for marriages lasting very long these days, and divorce especially with kids is something you never want to go through I can assure you that.Yes, and if she wants to ruin your life, she can in Spain thanks to feminist laws in which they can falsely denounce you, and, unless it's obvious that it was a false denounce, you're screwed and you carry the stigma forever. I know well what corrupt system I live in. But obviously the idea is to avoid the class of women who would do that.
Though, if I were looking for a Catholic to marry, I wouldn't limit myself to just traditional Catholic circles. There are many females in the Novus Ordo who are willing to attend TLM, and become traditional Catholic with some prompting and education. I wouldn't be too pushy about Francis not being pope, I would just make it clear that's what I believe based on objective reality, but I can't force that believe on anyone else. I would focus on looking for females that have a good upbringing, preferably raised not Europe or the US or at least not exclusively raised in either of those places. Hispanic women, Philipino women, in alot of cases have these good upbringings/foundation. Obviously, you want to make sure you have your house in order, good career or at least a good career path so you can support a family.
The old-fashioned way is to start with the other people (all trad Catholic, if possible) you know well and trust enough to introduce you their cousin, schoolmate's sister, neighbor's niece, and so on. Compared to the freelance strategy, this approach needs to be done with even more sincerity and tact towards the girl and also the one who introduced you to her.Yes, but I don't know Catholic trads in person outside of the Church that I go. My family stopped being Catholic 2 generations ago. They're not even Novus Ordo.
So little, because I didn't know what to say. I will try what Seraphina said, although there isn't a bar very close and I 'm should'n't to follow people on the street, I would seem like a stalker. I'll try to talk to someone at the exit with Seraphina tips to see what happens.Tips were not intended for use at a bar! At least not a bar in the American sense! Maybe you have pubs that are mainly places to socialize, not to get plastered and find a hook-up for the night? I was thinking to use the tips in a family friendly setting, like after Mass or at a community picnic in the park or a low-key sporting event.
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Great that you pointed that out and people seemed to agree. Little confidence that I owned I always thought that being homey was my down side, that I'm not "normal" not liking going out too much and I don't "put myself out there".
She enjoys being at home and doing homey things, and enjoys solitude and her own company. Being out in the world, rather than pull and attract her, is a bit discomfiting to her. When she's out there for any reason, she's glad to get back home.
This may get many thumbs downs, but when I am around young trad women, if I see that they have garish and long fingernails from a nail parlor, I lose respect for them.
Bad advice. Novus Ordo women may attend the TLM but they hardly ever become a true Trad. A typical novus ordo person (man or woman) doesn't believe in such things as (the true Fatima message, infiltration in the Church, evilness of the new mass, the deliberate protestantization of the Church, etc). If someone doesn't understand "why" Traditionalism exists, then no matter how much they love the TLM, eventually you will have problems in your marriage because your worldviews are too different.
Yes, and if she wants to ruin your life, she can in Spain thanks to feminist laws in which they can falsely denounce you, and, unless it's obvious that it was a false denounce, you're screwed and you carry the stigma forever. I know well what corrupt system I live in. But obviously the idea is to avoid the class of women who would do that.
In my Church there are very few single girls.Do you offer anything that would attract a woman?
Where should I search?
Tips to succeed with catholic trad girls?
What is it that attracts them?
How should do I court a catholic trad girl
Tips to avoid "problematic" girls? like promiscuous girls or that break the marriage when there are problems instead of solving them. This is very common today in the West, for example Spain has a divorce rate of 86%, when there is a serious problem or just bored people get divorced. I also don't want the marriage to become a continuous combat.
I'm not good at picking up on people's true intentions.
I have no flirting experience and I don't know what to talk to a girl about to keep her interested.
Any help is welcome.
God Bless.
Online (forums, dating sites/apps), join young adult groups, get involved in Church events/gatherings. Generally, be more social and try to get connections. I like how you can filter people out online and see who's more lax on Church teachings.I'm 26 years old. Thanks for your post.
I don't know how old you are but it's a struggle for men to find a nice woman. Don't tolerate feminist, domineering behaviour. Divorce is a huge deal in this day and you need to make sure that the one you marry will not do that despite the temptations in this world. Firstly, someone who's a virgin has a lower chance of divorce for obvious reasons. And find out if they have debt and how they view money. Feminism is so prevalent in our society and the wife being submissive to the husband is so offensive these days even though it can result in a good marriage. Happy wife, happy life is a lie.
And you can ask about family life, traditional gender roles, what they think about having a big family, etc. I'd make sure to get all the hard and serious topics out of the way before you get too deep with a woman otherwise the breakup can be bad. I think it's up to someone's discretion when to bring those topics up but better sooner than later.
I think you can pick up on red flags as you have more experience courting or dating. As for flirting, I don't think you need to worry about it as it'll come naturally with the one you'll marry. And you're not a pick-up artist. :smirk:
Tips were not intended for use at a bar! At least not a bar in the American sense! Maybe you have pubs that are mainly places to socialize, not to get plastered and find a hook-up for the night? I was thinking to use the tips in a family friendly setting, like after Mass or at a community picnic in the park or a low-key sporting event.Well, here there is no difference between a Pub and a Bar, the same place where you meet to have a coffee and talk, is the same place where there are others drinking carajillo and hard liquor.
I'm still looking myself.Hello "Catholicman" try taking a vacation trip to St Marys, go to one of these meetings for young adults: About | Acies (sspxacies.org) (https://www.sspxacies.org/who-we-are) or be there for one of the big events, like Christ the King or go on the SSPX Starkenburg Pilgrimage.
Two suggestions:
Us single men need to band together and pool resources.
And secondly, fathers of families should get out here and talk to us. With suggestions of their daughters. Developing friendships.
Do they really want 20 something daughters hanging around the house for too long?