The natural weakness to look to human respect is also part of the problem. When a person is hurting for some other unrelated reason, it's easy to define any topic in personal terms, and then if someone else points out logical contradictions or criticizes the substance of the matter under discussion, it can be taken as a personal attack when it isn't.
Also, people are stuck sometimes in a bind where they're influenced by loved ones less interested in the truth. Somebody around the Thanksgiving table talks about how cool or genius or "based" JP is and now the teens in the family now want to know more about JP. Speak or stay silent? Or let the JP fan convince us that maybe we're the one that doesn't get it?
Nobody said we have to trash JP and his wife, but things get polarized where you either have to be for or against, otherwise both sides will make you a target. The only one we have to be totally for is Christ.