Do whatever is noble and godly, living in the Presence of Christ. Certainly hitting one's wife is not noble, instead it dishonors her and any children witnessing such actions leading them to hit their own wives when they reach marriageable age. Indeed, we can act like immature brats, and swat our wives whenever they displease us, but there will be eternal consequences for our immature behavior.
We can justify our immaturity and use all the PROOF TEXTS from the saints to support our pitiful arguments, but if we have not love in our hearts, it will profit us nothing for St. Peter will never listen to proof texts, but he will discern what is in our hearts, for we are all called to be saints, to exercise prudence, love, generosity, temperance, kindness, meekness, humility, and forgiveness of failings.
Do not forget the words of St. Paul in 1 Cor. 13 [Douay-Rheims]
IF I speak with the tongues of men, and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And if I should have prophecy and should know all mysteries, and all knowledge, and if I should have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And if I should distribute all my goods to feed the poor, and if I should deliver my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth with the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.