you can't obey his decisions if they go against the catholic faith, how about you take the approach that when you actually do have kids you simply stay home and take care of them, have your priest tell him the wife's duty is to stay home with the kids, maybe look into doing some on line business at home
Well its difficult for me to know whats the right thing to do because even among trads there are different opinions (I see the advice and there are similar opinions but very different also).
Anyway, Im not worried now.
Im more calm because I talked to Father X and he is going to giving us counseling. Father says all things related to children and family are important NOW and not to be kicked out to years after. Both of us are willing to do what he says... so we are fine.
I answered to him if I should delay this to tomorrow and he said no. He said "You dont have to worry but to occupy" and that I should receive counseling and both of us have to use this time without children to focus in our home.
Hubby has good will and he respects Father's opinions. That doesnt mean he will do all he says but he will think about it and that's VERY GOOD :)
He even has recognized mothers working full time its not good.
I was very depressed before. It was good to receive advice here and talking to Father X (our priest).
Ps. Its very difficult to live in this time and age without talking to a priest or having trad friends constantly. If you have them, problems doesnt seem so bad.