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Änσnymσus

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How should a wife respond to discipline?
« on: May 13, 2020, 03:35:54 PM »
I originally posted this in the "Disciplining your wife", but really think it deserves its own topic.

Should this discipline take place in front of the children?

What should be a wife's response to either verbal or physical discipline?

And what if said discipline is given in anger, as a means of hurting the other person, rather than being done out of charity, for the true good of their soul?  What recourse does the wife have then?

I only ask because my husband verbally corrects me--out of anger, very often with a raised voice and hurtful words (ie: stupid) in front of my children.  Now that my sons are turning older, they too yell, criticize, or blame me when things go wrong.

I'm especially interested in the thoughts of those who advocate for wifely discipline.  If done incorrectly, it can and does affect your wife's thoughts and care for you and the attitudes of the children towards their mother. 


Don't get me wrong--I am not a saint and in the instances where I truly require correction, I will accept it.  But should the manner in which it is given be so harsh that it leaves your wife in tears because she has been humiliated in front of your children, again?  What about innocent mistakes or simple forgetfulness due to the vast number of demands made on her from a large family?  Attempting to give an explanation is often viewed as "talking back" when one is merely trying to explain why something did or didn't happen.

I have been so hurt by things my husband has said and done to correct me that I have come to the conclusion that I have disappointed him in his choice of spouse. 

I ask again, what should a woman do in cases like these?
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Re: How should a wife respond to discipline?
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2020, 03:51:22 PM »
If you can bear it, accept the correction calmly as punishment you deserve for your sins. Unless it is a danger to your safety and that of your children. If it is too much to bear then you can complain to your husband.
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Re: How should a wife respond to discipline?
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2020, 03:51:55 PM »
Only three "domestic abuse" / "wife discipline" threads this month?

Come on people, pick up the pace. Let's see at least five more of these before Memorial Day.
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Re: How should a wife respond to discipline?
« Reply #3 on: May 13, 2020, 03:57:28 PM »
Are you guys serious? 

Your husband doesn’t have a right to talk to you that way. Just like you don’t have the right to talk to him this way. Your husband and you are a scandal to the children.


I love how when people start searching for the faith, and maybe even tradition, they can happen upon this lot and see wife beaters, and fake theologians. 

I try and use public forums to help women come out do feminism, to become the women God calls them to be, and to be their husbands helper. But they see stuff like this, which isn’t even based in the Bible, or any concrete teachings, they go running back to feminism. How much scandal do you think you’ve all caused her by allowing such things to continue?
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Re: How should a wife respond to discipline?
« Reply #4 on: May 13, 2020, 05:38:23 PM »
Quote from: Anonymous on May 13, 2020, 03:57:28 PM
But they see stuff like this, which isn’t even based in the Bible, or any concrete teachings, they go running back to feminism.

I marvel about how so many people base their principles on emotional rather than rational considerations.  Just because someone commits a sin, it doesn't mean that what he believes in or stands for is necessarily invalidated.  It's like those people who leave the Church because some priests became pederasts.  Just because some priests became pederasts, what does that have to do with the rational/theological claims of the Church?  Just because some husband has issues with his temper or sometimes acts like a jerk, how does that now justify the embracing of feminism?

There was a story, I can't remember the details of time or place, where during the age of the corrupt Popes and curia, a simple new convert wanted to visit Rome.  But his mentor tried to persuade him, believing that the corruption in Rome would shake his faith.  After having seen it, however, he stated that his faith was even stronger.  His mentor marveled at this and asked how it could be.  He replied that if the Church could last and be so strong despite such corruption, then it must be of God.

I believe it was Evelyn Waugh who was known for an ill temper.  Someone criticized him, questioning how he could act like he did being a Catholic who went to daily Mass.  His response was along the lines of, "Imagine what I'd be like if I wasn't a Catholic and didn't go to Mass every day."

People sin, but personal sin has nothing to do with what's right and wrong, and what's good and bad.
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