I am sorry. You are right. I talk a lot on here. You are lucky I don't text everything I think or feel. 
Imagine what my poor husband has to go through. He knows how to love though, so I know I have a good man. 
No it's not fine for women to be catty. It's not fine for anyone to bully anyone.
I understand why men get frustrated with this.
But when men post ad nauseum about how women should behave, why are they surprised that the women get defensive?
I wish there were some men who would post about how men are supposed to love. I thought they were supposed to love like Christ did. That means die for women. That means forgive women for their bad behavior.
The men demand submission. Don't the women get to demand love?
Because all public interactions are by definition happening in a MALE realm. This is God's law. Get used to it and accept it fully in your heart. Never mind that lots of self-labeled trad women refuse this essential fact.. Women participate insofar as they contribute helpfully, not when they insist on swaying the conversation, changing the subject, making everything about them, antagonizing and chasing away moderate voices by wearing them down, etc.
Then all that remains on screen are the rightly-angered men who refuse to be verbally castrated, the swarm of longskirted mean girls who wear the pants on their souls if not on their bodies, and the aghast rubber-neckers who need to resolve to attend to daily obligations IRL instead of gawking at this never-ending train wreck.