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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #30 on: January 09, 2026, 04:16:43 AM »
Going outside of state is the least a man should do. travelling abroad is often necessary.
Definitely. One cannot limit themselves to just their local chapel, however large or small it is. Travelling and going to things like pilgrimages have all these other benefits as well as the very real possibility of meeting your a wife. Even if nothing comes of it immediately, you're still putting yourself where good things are more likely to happen

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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #31 on: February 11, 2026, 07:26:54 PM »
Out of 30 or so young men (20s / teens) in my workplace only about 5 are overweight.

Out of 30 or so young women (20s / teens) in my workplace only about 5 are slim... 

Inverse health really tells you what the issue is in modern society.


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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #32 on: February 11, 2026, 08:26:31 PM »
First point I want to address

"if you feel that you're called to marriage"

How can you "feel called to marriage" if you don't have a sweetheart, and frankly don't see any promising candidates around you?

Or are you saying, you're not queer, defective, or asɛҳuąƖ? Normal, healthy men have an attraction to women. They desire to get married, including for physical reasons. God put that desire in there, remember? Guess why? Otherwise no one would ever get married. God wanted the human race to continue. How many men have bettered themselves, lived upstanding lives, studied/worked and got established in a career, so that they could have a hope of getting married and having a family? Those are legitimate, human desires as God created us.

I know there is some residual Puritanism in the air we breathe. I spoke about this in my last podcast. No one would say it out loud or articulate it, but there's this "feeling" that sex is something bad, that the body and all things connected to it were created by the "evil god" and the "good God" created only the spiritual realm. That is obviously a condemned heresy.

But my point is: priests and male religious are NOT queer, gαy, or asɛҳuąƖ. They have the same "tugs" coming from human nature as any other man.
As a matter of fact, if you are DEFECTIVE in this matter, it might be an impediment to the priesthood.

Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #33 on: February 12, 2026, 03:10:48 AM »
Spoke with a trad priest recently about why there are so few young marriages....family interference was the #1 problem. Meaning the parents thought the prospective groom or bride wasn't "good enough" or "Catholic enough" for their precious child.  Most notably was a pre-occupation with whether or not the prospective groom was a "pedophile". 
Whilst men are left in no doubt as to what their duties are and will frequently be reminded from the pulpit, the inverse is not so frequent. 

I don't think I've ever heard a sermon where the faithful are informed that nagging, micromanaging, witholding of intimacy, rash spending, letting oneself go and  complaining about housework were conducive to ensuring the peaceful household that the husband wants to return to every night.
   
Mariage is such a great deal for women. Just by being being kind, pure and feminine, they get a house, a protector, and the support of a  family until they day they die. And the only real hard work is for the few years when there are plenty of young children around. And if they keep their kindness and femininity into old age, the husband has indeed a great treasure and he will get up early to work every day to preserve this.    

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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #34 on: February 12, 2026, 12:49:43 PM »
 I just don't understand how parents allow their daughters to age without seriously looking for a good husband for them. It just doesn't make sense. 
I know of families in which parents hold back one of their daughters in hopes that she will be their caretaker in their old age.