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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #155 on: Today at 01:59:25 PM »
But you can ask for clarification and not make rash judgments or make assumptions.  You can give the poster the benefit of doubt.

It is the charitable thing to do.

The only reason to assume the worst intention is to cause a scene and humiliate people.  It is done to make someone less credible. 

Frankly I just don't care anymore.  If you are offended good, if you are not good. 

In fact if you decide it is your job to assume authority over me, I am going to assume that I struck a nerve and planted a good seed.  If I cause another post like the long one above I am going to take it as a compliment.  That post was filled with so many rash adjustments and attacks at my husband and myself it was appalling.  The fact that people joined in with middle school like behavior is laughable.  Being a women is not about being a door mat.

Go ahead do your worst  but the saddest thing is that when people see wrong being done they don't defend they just let it happen.

Lucky for me I have a real group of friends that are good Catholics, both male and female, who find it funny that my persona on here is such and constantly encourage me to leave.  Why I don't leave, that is in God's hands?  I came on here by accident and I will leave at some point because I choose to (or I am ordered to by my authorities) or I have broke the rules and Matthew kicks me off.

If you have made it this far.  I wasn't going to make a response unless the thread was  pushed to the top by someone else.  It was, so I wrote.  Prayers for all.
People judge what you wrote.......based on what you wrote.  If you write things which are contrary to your intention, that's your issue.  

We're not talking about people assuming the worst, we are talking about reading what is written in a post.  If your post is so confusing that it needs an interpretation or it requires someone to infer an intention, then then problem is your writing skills.

Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #156 on: Today at 02:52:33 PM »
The following helped me to understand what God is commanding when He asks us to have an upright intention, and an upright will. It is from St. Thomas Aquinas commenting on the commandments:

https://archive.org/details/AquinasOnTheCommandments/page/n81/mode/2up

1. The heart: intention. You must know that the intention is understood by the heart. The intention has such power that it draws all works to itself. Hence actions that are good in themselves become bad by a bad intention. Our Lord says (St. Luke xi. 34), 'The light of thy body is thy eye. If thy eye be single, thy whole body will be lightsome; but if it be evil, thy body also will be darksome.' He means this: If your intention be bad, the whole gathering of your good works will become dark. Besides, in every work our intention must be fixed on God: as St. Paul says (1 Cor. x. 31), 'Whether you eat or drink, or whatsoever else you do, do all to the glory of God.’

2. The soul: a good will. A good intention is not enough; there must be also a good will, which is signified by the soul. A man often acts fruitlessly, notwithstanding his good intention, from the want of a good will. Thus he might steal to feed a poor man. Here there is a good intention, but the needful uprightness of will is wanting. No wicked deed is excused by a good intention. This is the teaching of St. Paul, who says (Rom. iii. 8), 'And not rather, as we are slandered and as some affirm that we say, let us do evil that there may come good; whose damnation is just.' In truth, a good will is added to a good intention when the will is in agreement with the will of God. We daily pray for this, saying in our Lord's words (St. Matt, v. 10), 'Hallowed by Thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth, as it is in Heaven.' So our Lord says in prophecy (Ps. xxxix. 8, 9), 'Behold I come: in the head of the book it is written of me that I should do Thy will: O my God, I have desired it; and Thy law is in the midst of my heart.' Because of these reasons Jesus says, 'With thy whole soul:' for in Scripture the soul is often taken for the will. Thus (Heb. x. 38), 'If he withdraw himself he shall not please My soul:’  that is to say, he will not be in union with God's will.
 
Please, for the love of God, do not take this as an insult directed at you Mrs. Gray. I am sharing something that is related to the topic at hand for the benefit of those reading this. I underlined a part in the commentary that many people today, generally, do not understand.


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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #157 on: Today at 03:10:39 PM »
:jester:  This has nothing to do with topic.  

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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #158 on: Today at 03:26:33 PM »
People judge what you wrote.......based on what you wrote.  If you write things which are contrary to your intention, that's your issue. 

We're not talking about people assuming the worst, we are talking about reading what is written in a post.  If your post is so confusing that it needs an interpretation or it requires someone to infer an intention, then then problem is your writing skills.
Thank you for your opinion.

Some people understand what I write, some don't.  I am ok with that.

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Re: Chrysostom on finding a wife...
« Reply #159 on: Today at 04:51:09 PM »
Thank you for your opinion.

Some people understand what I write, some don't.  I am ok with that.
You're evading responsibility.... Again