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Offline Pax Vobis

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Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #155 on: May 21, 2024, 12:06:45 PM »
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I generally can't think of a reason to leave my house by myself so I just stay home.
Most times, life happens with you least expect it.  If you think you can, you can.  If you think you can't, you can't.  


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I know I won't meet anyone at my house, but if I can't think of anything to go do by myself, I'm at a dead end.
You need to quit thinking and just go do something.  Your close-mindedness is preventing you from growth and new experiences.

Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #156 on: May 21, 2024, 12:15:26 PM »
Most times, life happens with you least expect it.  If you think you can, you can.  If you think you can't, you can't. 

You need to quit thinking and just go do something.  Your close-mindedness is preventing you from growth and new experiences.
You can't quit thinking. Say I'm at my house. I decide to go somewhere. I walk out to my car and get in. Where do I drive to? 


Offline Pax Vobis

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Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #157 on: May 21, 2024, 12:48:51 PM »
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You can't quit thinking.
It's a phrase which means, quit over analyzing things.  Which may be difficult for you, but not impossible.

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Say I'm at my house. I decide to go somewhere. I walk out to my car and get in. Where do I drive to?
The point is, you NEED to get some hobbies, interests, etc.  You're loneliness can be minimized if your mind is occupied (i.e. you are working on some project or goal).

You don't have to go out of the house to solve the problem of boredom.  But i'm sure it would make life more interesting.  Let's say you decided to write a book, or design a website...would you rather do that at your house, alone?  Or at a coffee shop, where there's music and people watching?  Or you'd work at both places, depending on your schedule, because writing a book would take months or years.

I don't know you at all; i'm only commenting based on your prior posts.  So take this with a grain of salt. 
1) What are your talents?  Reading, writing, creating, drawing, music, listening, etc?
2) Take such talents and apply it to something worthwhile.  (i.e. write a book about Church history, or create a website which organizes the history of the saints, or something related to your talents).
3) Most people with autism have very specific talents.  You need to start using them for work/church/fun/all-of-the-above.
4) How about your read the whole Bible, cover to cover?

Even if you don't have a plan, start a project.  A wise man once said, "A life of chaos is better than a life of stasis."  It's better to have done and failed, than to have never tried. 

And remember, we are given this life to work and to do.  Not waste.  If you have absolutely nothing to do, you had better be saying the full 15 decades of the rosary a day.  Our Lady will never fail to reward you for this great work, which is prayer.

Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #158 on: May 21, 2024, 02:51:55 PM »
You can't quit thinking. Say I'm at my house. I decide to go somewhere. I walk out to my car and get in. Where do I drive to?
Here are some ideas! 

Go to a park with some binoculars and look at birds. Or go to one with a lake or pond and take a fishing pole. Or just walk some trails. Say hi to people as you pass them. 

Go to the coffee shop to read whatever it is that you are currently reading. 

Just drive around. Maybe something will catch your interest. 

Do some volunteer work. 

Go to a nursing home and visit with the elderly. Maybe they could point you to someone who likes visitors but rarely gets them. They won’t care what you say, just that you’re there. 

Just get out! Too much isolation can lead to mental illness- you’ve get to get out of your own head. 




Offline St Giles

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Re: Suffering from loneliness
« Reply #159 on: May 21, 2024, 06:40:06 PM »
Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

Or you might say 

Success is when preparation meets opportunity. As long as you follow through.

Just something to think about.