As an aside, this is one of the things couples should do while they're courting. Not just sightseeing, eating out, and mindless fun. Courtship is serious business; it's when you get to know each other's backgrounds, to figure out how compatible you are.

Issues like money, lifestyle, the education of children, family size, can make or break a marriage. Some things can be compromised on; but other things really can't (you can't send half the kids to public school, and the other half to homeschool. Same for vaccines)

As an aside, this is one of the things couples should do while they're courting. Not just sightseeing, eating out, and mindless fun. Courtship is serious business; it's when you get to know each other's backgrounds, to figure out how compatible you are.

Issues like money, lifestyle, the education of children, family size, can make or break a marriage. Some things can be compromised on; but other things really can't (you can't send half the kids to public school, and the other half to homeschool. Same for vaccines)

To be fair Matthew, even if couples have these conversations with good intentions prior to marriage, things can look very different once they are actually dealing with these things as a married couple.  

To be fair Matthew, even if couples have these conversations with good intentions prior to marriage, things can look very different once they are actually dealing with these things as a married couple. 

This. ^^

To be fair Matthew, even if couples have these conversations with good intentions prior to marriage, things can look very different once they are actually dealing with these things as a married couple. 

Yes, even if you discuss important issues during courtship, SOME couples will have problems with SOME of the important issues of life.
But if you fail to discuss the issues before marriage, ALL will have problems with MANY of them.

See the difference? It's about increasing your chances and doing your due diligence -- not trying to get a "guarantee". Nothing is guaranteed in life. There are always curve balls.

It reminds me of another example --
If you are able to stand up against, say, mask mandates in 2020 (which is relatively easy I'll admit), you MIGHT make it through tortures during a Catholic persecution in 2040 (I'm just picking a date for the sake of argument).

But if you can't go in maskless into a wal-mart in 2020, facing the ire of middle-aged suburban white women with short haircuts, and elderly door greeters, then you are CERTAINLY not going to do well in a real persecution.

He who can do the lesser, MIGHT be able to do the greater.
He who can't even do the lesser, will certainly not be able to do the greater.

We have 9 kids, and no:

autism
allergies
frequent earaches
gut issues
auto-immune issues

Statistically that's impossible, given the numbers for the current year. Look at any public school classroom of 25 kids, and see how many cases of the above you observe in nature.

(Our oldest got a few vaccines before 6 months, but that was it)

The # of vaccines given to kids by age 5 spiked highly between the "children of the 80's" and the current age. You should google it. It's a common fact. And that's when the FDA overhauled the US requirements for food labeling. Who remembers the food labels BEFORE this change? Hint: there was no section for allergens.

Contains: nuts, soy, wheat, milk

In bold at the end of every ingredient list.

I frequently tell people about my own experience in public school. In 2nd grade, we had a field trip during which we "auctioned off" 25 sack lunches, one for each child. The bidding was capped at 50 cents. My point? Could you imagine the lawsuits, the number of epi-pens needed, the number of ambulances that would show up if they had an event like this today? They would NEVER do such a thing now. Too many allergies among the children. AND WHY? It's not because of smartphones. It's certainly not because of electricity or pollution; we had plenty of those in the 80's (We're talking about the 1980s, not the Old West). What has changed from the 80's to today? Which of those things could POSSIBLY explain the skyrocketing incidence of autism and the other things listed above?

We are both lifelong traditional Catholics, and yes we pray often. He disregards any research that isn't done by the big "approved" agencies, and calls everything else a conspiracy theory. Like I said... we're at an impasse. I agree, children are worth fighting for. We both see things from a totally different perspective. I just don't know where it ends. What if he tries to have it done against my will? What if he resents me forever for resisting? Would the traditional Church say a husband gets final say on all medical matters for the children?

He needs to watch some presentations to wake him up. Maybe this one would be a good start: https://youtu.be/mhOOziH7QAo?t=1442

Is there any catholic teaching about husbands taking a woman's, the wife's, intuition into consideration? Men are quite reasonable, but easily get stubbornly stuck in erroneous conclusions.

Maybe your husband needs to chat with a few male Cath Info members. The fact that politicians and the medical industry is so highly paid and seeks after much money, and gets involved in these lines of work for the money in most cases should be plenty enough evidence to find them suspicious. What would he think of a pope who wants to be pope? The last saint pope we had was surprised at and protested his election due to his humility. Everything these days is designed to make a few richer at the expense of the many, and the most successful work together sponsoring each other,making mutually beneficial deals and such.