Author Topic: how can i fight lust and other tempations? (Read 4722 times)

amariec · « **on:** October 09, 2009, 05:50:03 PM »

i am a 19 year old female. i have struggled with lust and masturbation for a long time. At the age of 11 after being introduced to masturbation and porn by my friends, I began to masturbate and watch porn. i am happy to say i that i have now been able to fight the temptation of masturbation and watching porn. i have been clean for almost 4 months. however i still have a very lustful mindset. things on tv, music, or random thoughts cause me find myself in a lustful state. sometimes i am able to fight these thoughts, but more times than not i cant fight it and find myself submerging into these thoughts. it even causes me to aroused. i have cleaned up my life in many ways but this is one of my most difficult battles. i pray regularly, read inspirational messages and the bible 5 days a week at the least. i still need help to fight these feelings. i seen something on tv about a boy who has a "sɛҳuąƖ demon" inside of him. is there any way that might be true for me? any advice or guidance would be helpful for me to overcome my struggles.

also, i am in college and the temptation for drinking and marijuana are frequently around me. i have stopped smoking marijuana for over 3 months but still often have the temptation to. i feel as if i'm missing out by not partying thru my college years. because i do want to have those experiences, but i know it is very wrong. i would appreciate all the help and guidance i may receive.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #1 on:** October 09, 2009, 08:42:56 PM »

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i have been clean for almost 4 months. however i still have a very lustful mindset.

God be praised, young lady. As they say: Ten miles into the forest, ten miles out. This particular battle will continue for a while, so just keep fighting.

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things on tv, music, or random thoughts cause me find myself in a lustful state.

TV is full of visual triggers, and music immediately influences the emotions. Be careful and sparing in your use of both.

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it even causes me to aroused. i have cleaned up my life in many ways but this is one of my most difficult battles.

Even those who have never fallen are easily aroused. It is the way we are as a consequence of the fall of Adam and Eve.

Hold on, girl.

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i feel as if i'm missing out by not partying thru my college years. because i do want to have those experiences, but i know it is very wrong.

Missing what? Making an idiot out of yourself, risking your health and life, and adding to your debt before God and the list of things you will wish you had never done when you finally meet your husband?

Dear, I have been down this road. I sure as hell didn't start making better decisions at 19. PRAISE GOD that you are doing so. TRUST Him. Pray the Holy Rosary as often as you are able. Start small, but solid - build up from there.

You will be okay, dear. Please believe me when I say I know whereof you speak. God desires your salvation and He CAN and WILL help in every way you need, so long as you ask (and many times when you do not).

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #2 on:** October 09, 2009, 09:06:28 PM »

Btw, Welcome to the site. Godspeed, my lady.

amariec · « **Reply #3 on:** October 09, 2009, 09:09:42 PM »

thank you so much for the guidance. i started to see signs that the things i was doing was leaving me essentially unhappy. i was raised catholic and still had my faith, yet i put my selfish ways before my faith. i am now deciding to accept jesus and allow him to guide my life. i want to make myself better. your words are inspirational and i thank you.

gladius_veritatis · « **Reply #4 on:** October 09, 2009, 09:14:04 PM »

It is a great pleasure to me to be of use to you. You are, imperfect though you may be, a daughter of the Almighty. We are all but weak vessels. For some reason, most of us think that we can fill up the God-shaped holes in ourselves with other things. It just doesn't work, although some (many?) die trying. God go with you.