That is completely alien to any true sensus Catholicus.
It is also an alien concept that the Church hierarchy is full of people who are trying to destroy Her from within. So, when war breaks out, certain "social norms" are disregarded, for 'life and death' purposes. What you are proposing is that we are supposed to blindly trust the hierarchy, who is openly trying to destroy the Faith, all in the name of 'catholic standards', none of which the hierarchy supports, believes in or cares about.
It's like you're arguing we have the obligation to 'respect our father' when he comes home at night drunk, starts beating our mother, but stops to ASK (he did not tell us) us to go get him another bottle of whiskey. I say, 'we don't have to obey him 1) he didn't command us and 2) circuмstances dictate we ignore his request'.
You are arguing that we should "obey" him (even when there's no command) out of "respect" for his authority, even when he's abusing his authority and causing harm? INSANITY!