Maybe you should read up on all the different points of view.  Archbishop LeFebrve's writings are available in book format.  You can even read some sedevacantist writers.  

It sounds like you completely accept the novus ordo.  If so, why not just go to the novus ordo with a traditional prayer book?  Do you find the post-Vatican II mass to be a distraction from your spiritual growth?  

If you view the post-Vatican II church as acceptable, then why not seek out the FSSP or ICKSP?  They both are great in their own ways.  

To think that you (and we) as laymen can change the Church, I think that's an act of vanity.  Our only actions are to assist at the novus ordo or, even without permission, assist at the SSPX.  As a layman, it is perfectly acceptable to attend the SSPX.  Benedict XVI even said so.  If asked, Pope Francis would say so too (but would dismiss us as sad sack reactionaries or something similar).