Author Topic: Woman's perspective on being single in your 30's (Read 11621 times)

s2srea · « **Reply #65 on:** February 13, 2012, 08:45:24 PM »

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Yes I was married civilly; but the circuмstances I found myself in, and with, at that time are far too complex and personal to go over here, apart from the fact that I was wrong to have done so. The point is, I've never been a 'jerk' type with women, either before or after tradition, and never had issues because of it.

But the bottom line is that you didn't get along with women by acting like a devout Catholic, did you?

Yes, I did. What does this have to do with being sentimental. I didn't reject the Church because of, or for, women, as it had to do with my parents and then priest.

s2srea · « **Reply #66 on:** February 13, 2012, 08:46:32 PM »

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Yes I was married civilly; but the circuмstances I found myself in, and with, at that time are far too complex and personal to go over here, apart from the fact that I was wrong to have done so. The point is, I've never been a 'jerk' type with women, either before or after tradition, and never had issues because of it.

But the bottom line is that you didn't get along with women by acting like a devout Catholic, did you?

Did u thumb me down?

Telesphorus · « **Reply #67 on:** February 13, 2012, 08:47:38 PM »

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I think Graham alluded to this earlier... about being sort of a mean-guy with women, and them liking it, while pretending otherwise. I never believed in that. I think some women must like that, and I know many of them, but I suppose I was never that interested in that type, as I never had to deal with one. My wife was, and is, the exact opposite to that type. There were never any 'games' (well, they're games to me) like Graham describes, and which I'm familiar with.

It's a sliding scale I think. If you hadn't been a well-paid firemen, if you were trying to follow Catholic morality in your dealings with the opposite sex before you were married, it would have been a lot more difficult I dare say.

s2srea · « **Reply #68 on:** February 13, 2012, 08:50:33 PM »

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I think Graham alluded to this earlier... about being sort of a mean-guy with women, and them liking it, while pretending otherwise. I never believed in that. I think some women must like that, and I know many of them, but I suppose I was never that interested in that type, as I never had to deal with one. My wife was, and is, the exact opposite to that type. There were never any 'games' (well, they're games to me) like Graham describes, and which I'm familiar with.

It's a sliding scale I think. If you hadn't been a well-paid firemen, if you were trying to follow Catholic morality in your dealings with the opposite sex before you were married, it would have been a lot more difficult I dare say.

Well I wasn't a well paid fireman until after my civil marriage. I was involved with the air force as a reserve fireman, and a cadet (part-time FF) before that, and when I was very much involved in the Faith (at least, I was where I should have been at that point in my spiritual development). If you are having so many issues with women, perhaps its not the women as a whole, but your approach?

I'm at work (late!) and might not get to respond to this for an hour. I'll be back.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #69 on:** February 13, 2012, 08:51:34 PM »

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Did u thumb me down?

Yes, because your explanation that "it's complicated" as to your dealing with girls before you were married ignores the fact that you were being "bad" enough to transgress Catholic morals, do you understand?

Let me give you an example:

The first day of class my junior year, I was 17, one of the most popular girls in a small high school whispered to me to "have sex" under her breath to me. This girl eventually won the religion award upon her graduation.

I was stupid enough, naive enough, to fall for this girl, but I was very insistent with my beliefs when I dealt with her.

Here's the point s2rea: If I'd been looking to fool around with girls, I would have had a lot more "success" so to speak, than if I hadn't always been looking for a wife.