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Offline 2Vermont

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Re: Jimmy on Relationships
« Reply #15 on: December 01, 2023, 02:23:11 PM »
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  • I can see how you might think that.  But please look at it from my perspective.  A letter I wrote was put on here, I did not intend for it ever to be posted here.  The people were completely uncharitable.  They made me out to be something I am not.  I joined only to defend myself against bullying and now everyone judges me based on those first posts.

    I keep posting about love and loving thy neighbor and no one wants to hear it.  If everyone here is trying to be Catholic, then why so harsh to strangers.
    Yeah, it appears the start to your membership was fraught with issues.  Yet another reason to step back, so you (and others) can get past that.  A time out of sorts.

    FWIW, I think there is merit to some of what you are trying to say in your posts, and I do think that your criticism of some of the posts also has some merit.  However, I think it's how you're doing it.  It comes across like this:  :fryingpan: 

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #16 on: December 01, 2023, 02:24:31 PM »
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  • You cannot expect to share your opinions on a public forum and not have at least one person disagree with you (more than one here, and rightfully so). A quick perusal of your posts shows that this "woe is me" behavior is common with you. You say something controversial (one might say feminist or modernist), there is a justified disapproval from the Traditional Catholics here, and then you begin with the self pity. You should take a step back to A) get a general sense of who, and what, this forum is for , and B) ask yourself why your posts keep bringing about such opposition.

    You may come to realize that this is a case of, "It's not them, it's me"


    And who ever said you are supposed to feel "safe" here?
    I don't disagree with you.  I know lots of people will disagree with me.  I felt bullied though.  Apparently that is ok.

    This is a quote from the first post on Introductions from Matthew "CathInfo was founded in 2006 to facilitate free and open discussion on many topics, share news, foster friendships, build support networks, and form a sense of community among English-speaking Traditional Catholics worldwide."

    I interpreted it to mean that their would be good healthy conversations.  I thought that their would be compassion and love and understanding and thoughtfulness.  I interpreted it as safe, but I see I was wrong and safe is a trigger word, because the modern world has turned it into something nasty.
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"


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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #17 on: December 01, 2023, 02:29:35 PM »
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  • You should be mad at the person who posted it.

    Your letter got criticism but only because it was too general to agree with.  No one knew the backstory. 
    I have talked to the person already.  We are fine now.

    No one really asked for the backstory and I was verbally attacked before I posted my first word on here.  This is why this can be dangerous communication.  I want the Catholic Faith.  I want people to do the right thing.  I understand that some people will be sarcastic.  I am disappointed that people use anonymity to say things they would not say directly to some ones face.
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #18 on: December 01, 2023, 02:30:21 PM »
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  • No Traditional Catholic can support Taylor Swift and expect to be agreed with.  Swift goes against everything a Traditional catholic lady should want to be. 

    Also, please quit using this word "safe", in relation to the internet.  The only thing that an online forum can hurt is your feelings.  You are in no physical danger.  Don't be a snowflake.

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #19 on: December 01, 2023, 02:31:11 PM »
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  • Yeah, it appears the start to your membership was fraught with issues.  Yet another reason to step back, so you (and others) can get past that.  A time out of sorts.

    FWIW, I think there is merit to some of what you are trying to say in your posts, and I do think that your criticism of some of the posts also has some merit.  However, I think it's how you're doing it.  It's comes across like this:  :fryingpan: 
    Yes I know.  Think of it as me learning to swim.
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"


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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #20 on: December 01, 2023, 02:31:52 PM »
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    No one really asked for the backstory and I was verbally attacked before I posted my first word on here. 
    You were not verbally attacked because no one knew who you were (and we still don't).  Your letter was disagreed with.  Don't blow this out of proportion.

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #21 on: December 01, 2023, 02:36:28 PM »
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  • No Traditional Catholic can support Taylor Swift and expect to be agreed with.  Swift goes against everything a Traditional catholic lady should want to be. 

    Also, please quit using this word "safe", in relation to the internet.  The only thing that an online forum can hurt is your feelings.  You are in no physical danger.  Don't be a snowflake.
    You are correct Taylor Swift is not an example of a Catholic lady.  I do not want to make this a Taylor Swift thread.  

    But you bring a question to mind.  Which is more painful, physical pain or mental pain?
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #22 on: December 01, 2023, 02:40:33 PM »
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  • You were not verbally attacked because no one knew who you were (and we still don't).  Your letter was disagreed with.  Don't blow this out of proportion.
    Just because you don't know the person, doesn't mean you didn't hurt them. 
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"


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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #23 on: December 01, 2023, 02:47:14 PM »
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  • If you have forgiven the person you know in real life, for posting the letter on here, then certainly you can forgive a bunch of strangers on this site for making comments about a letter we didn’t know the backstory to (which many admitted).  

    If not, then the internet is not the place for you.  Sites like these are for bare-bones, cold, hard analysis of news and public people.  If you want friends, go talk to real people.  Friends are hard to make online.  

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #24 on: December 01, 2023, 02:49:47 PM »
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  • If you have forgiven the person you know in real life, for posting the letter on here, then certainly you can forgive a bunch of strangers on this site for making comments about a letter we didn’t know the backstory to (which many admitted). 

    If not, then the internet is not the place for you.  Sites like these are for bare-bones, cold, hard analysis of news and public people.  If you want friends, go talk to real people.  Friends are hard to make online. 
    I really do forgive all of you.  I just want to have some deep Catholic conversations.  But some topics seem taboo, like what does it look like for a Catholic man to truly love his wife?
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #25 on: December 01, 2023, 02:58:07 PM »
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  • I really do forgive all of you.  I just want to have some deep Catholic conversations.  But some topics seem taboo, like what does it look like for a Catholic man to truly love his wife?
    See, I think that is a topic we can have here (although I suspect that many people would prefer to do it in the gender specific rooms).  I just think you need to work your way up to it.  Would you walk into a room full of mostly strange men and present that topic to them in person? 

    Maybe you should stick to the women's room for now.


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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #26 on: December 01, 2023, 03:09:24 PM »
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  • See, I think that is a topic we can have here (although I suspect that many people would prefer to do it in the gender specific rooms).  I just think you need to work your way up to it.  Would you walk into a room full of mostly strange men and present that topic to them in person?

    Maybe you should stick to the women's room for now.
    I actually might.  Nobody talks about it.  I don't hear the Priests talk about it from the pulpit.
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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #27 on: December 01, 2023, 03:21:44 PM »
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  • Maybe someone can direct me to a good sermon on the topic of men loving their wives.
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #28 on: December 01, 2023, 03:39:58 PM »
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  • Maybe someone can direct me to a good sermon on the topic of men loving their wives.

    The Resistance recently published a booklet you might like, called “Spanking Your Wife with Love.: How to Communicate With Your Woman.” 

    The primary thesis was that women sometimes act out because they want you to spank them, and a loving husband has to watch out for the signs, or the relationship could suffer.

    One of the biggest signs is catching your wife watching the fight scene from The Quiet Man, where the old lady gives John Wayne “a good stick to beat the lovely lady.”  You see, the book explains that what your wife is telling you is that she wishes she had a man like John Wayne, but because we don’t know how to communicate emotionally like Taylor Swift, they often divorce us and turn to lesbianism.

    I’ll see if I can find it on Amazon in the self-help section and send it to you.  It has an introduction by Mike Tyson.

    PS: The book also mentioned that if you can’t get your husband to spank you no matter what you try, it is permissible to ask a patriarch of the extended family to perform this duty.

    :facepalm:
    Rom 5: 20 - "But where sin increased, grace abounded all the more."

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    Re: Jimmy on Relationships
    « Reply #29 on: December 01, 2023, 04:16:31 PM »
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  • Maybe someone can direct me to a good sermon on the topic of men loving their wives.
    You’d be better off looking for sermons on the topic of wives loving their husbands.

    Then again, since you’re either an AI bot, or a common troll, you won’t.
    Rom 5: 20 - "But where sin increased, grace abounded all the more."