Author Topic: I knew college was an EVEN WORSE idea than I could have ever imagined. (Read 7814 times)

Telesphorus · « **Reply #10 on:** September 24, 2012, 05:37:07 PM »

Quote from: Daegus

Edit: After doing a bit of research.. Are you guys sure he's a sociopath? He doesn't sound like one to me. He seems to show emotion but I don't really know that much about him.

No, of course I don't know whether he's a sociopath or not. But he's leading a reckless, licentious life, and he doesn't leave you alone. That indicates the possibility that he likes to manipulate weak-willed people, and to get them to serve him and do evil, for his own amusement.

Sede Catholic · « **Reply #11 on:** September 24, 2012, 05:48:24 PM »

Quote from: SpiritusSanctus

This is why I always say that if a man wants to obtain a degree, he is better off earning one online. At least then you can bypass stuff like this.

I think your best bet is to be truthful with him in the nicest way possible, Daegus. He should eventually get the message and leave you alone.

Dear Spiritus, this is really good advice!!

Daegus is best off telling this awful man the truth.

Secondly, you are right about on-line degrees.

Everyone should avoid going to college.

They are places of sin and apostacy.

If you really need a degree, get one on-line.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #12 on:** September 24, 2012, 05:50:04 PM »

A sociopath is basically a narcissist. They are dangerous people to be around because they are very self-absorbed, they care only about themselves. Here are the symptoms of a sociopath:

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/sociopath-symptoms-of-a-sociopath.html

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Symptoms

There are several reasons why people may exhibit sociopathic behavior. As mentioned above, it could be hereditary, wherein a family member may have suffered from a particular personality disorder. In such a case, the affected individual portrays certain innate behaviors such as anger and impulsiveness at a very young age. On the other hand, a sociopath may have normal behavioral traits as a child, which may slowly be altered over time due to the environment and different types of behavior he has been exposed to since childhood. A sociopath can also be the result of a mix of 'nature and nurture', part hereditary behaviors and part environmental situations.

It may be difficult to recognize a sociopath because such a person is overtly very charming, while sociopathic traits are present below the surface. You may have to dig a little deeper to recognize the symptoms. Also remember that the portrayal of just any one symptom cannot define a person as a sociopath. If more than one or two of the following symptoms exist together, a person may be characterized as a sociopath.

The Ability to Manipulate
Sociopaths are real charmers and have the ability to manipulate people they wish to use for any kind of personal purpose. With the portrayal of such behavior, it may be difficult to identify sociopaths.

Failure of Conformity to Social Norms
Total disregard for certain set norms by society is a symptom that will easily give a sociopath away. In fact, they often prefer to tweak and twist the 'rules' to suit themselves and their fancies. All this stems out of impulsiveness, and there is no particular cause for the antisocial behavior that sociopaths exhibit.

Impulsiveness
Sociopaths are known to be impulsive and unpredictable, wanting to do unimaginable things at the most unimaginable time, without any planning. They find it extremely difficult to resist temptation and wish to gratify their desires and urges instantly. They do not care about the consequences of their behavior.

Ego-Centric Behavior
We all have an ego, and some of us have a highly inflated ego. However, sociopathic tendencies include completely self-centered behavior and little capacity to love anyone, or even be emotionally attached to a person in their life.

Lack of Emotions
Not only do they lack emotions such as love and attachment, they have little regard for the feelings of others around them. Being prone to serious mood swings, they can easily be callous, rude, and snap angrily at anyone with no regard for the opposite person's feelings. Moreover, they don't even feel sorry for such behavior. They feel no gratitude for any favors done for them, neither do they thank others for their kindness under any circuмstance.

Lack of Responsibility
Sociopaths are usually irresponsible towards themselves as well as others. They have often been defined as having parasitic tendencies, where they depend on others for their bread and butter and other comforts. No matter how grave the situation, sociopaths cannot be considered reliable enough to deal with them singularly or with the help of someone else. Moreover, they refuse to take responsibility for their own actions, and have the tendency to blame others or environmental situations for any kind of problem that has arisen as a result of their own actions.

Absence of Personal Goals
Sociopaths have no personal goals in life. As mentioned before, their parasitic tendencies keep them believing that it is possible for them to survive comfortably all their life. They lead aimless lives, from one day to another, without any direction.

Pathological Lying
Sociopaths also exhibit symptoms of pathological liars, where they constantly lie to cover up for certain behaviors. It is difficult to trust them and take their word at face value because of this untruthful and insincere behavior.

Juvenile Delinquency
This is one of the signs of sociopathic behavior in children. Juvenile delinquency refers to criminal behavior by children who belong to the age group 13-18 years. The crimes may involve exploitation, aggression and manipulation, vandalism, drug and alcohol abuse.

Infidelity
Sociopaths fear commitment, which makes them often resort to infidel behavior. Their marital relationships are often short-lived. They also tend to portray promiscuous sɛҳuąƖ behavior, where they have several affairs with a variety of people, and attempt to maintain several relationships at the same time, none of which they are committed to. Furthermore, they seem to feel great pride in such behavior and do not refrain from explicit discussions of their feats and so-called 'conquests'.

After learning about these symptoms, it seems surprising that for a person who cannot lead a life in a particular direction, it is so easy to be self-motivated to con and charm people for personal gain. Such individuals cannot differentiate between right and wrong because of a lack of conscience. Dealing with a sociopath is also often difficult since it takes a while before the symptoms are recognized. Trying to alter these symptoms is a big challenge as sociopaths are very resistant to change. Even so, therapeutic treatment has been given to them, but without much success.

Agobard · « **Reply #13 on:** September 24, 2012, 05:50:30 PM »

PenitentWoman and Tel have the best reply.

Does he look like he is from a particular "tribe"? I am not kidding.

My reply:

Why would you want these college girls? I'm serious. If you believe yourself to be someone of quality, why would you want to pollute your reality with young women who attend frat parties? You are completely unlike modern guys in a good way.

Not to be offensive, but to simply use these frat party girls would be better for you and your future family than to see yourself equal to them. During the Middle Ages, prostitution was allowed based partly on this. You love an honorable woman - your wife, you sin with a dishonorable woman and be done with it. I am in no way telling you to sin, simply explaining how it can effect you. I would not recommend this for many of these young women have STDs, apart from moral reasons. Which a debate can be had elsewhere, which is worse?

If he knows so many girls and you desire to seek a near equal, ask him if he knows any nice quiet shy girls and perhaps become good friends with her. Don't see her as someone to necessarily start a relationship with - a Christian courtship, but as a friend who you can learn about the way young women can be and she can learn how a young man can be. There may be some girl at the college who needs a good Christian influence.

Being paid for taking notes and helping out is ok. Doing assignments for him? Tell him he is there to learn, you can tutor him, *help* him outline and research papers, teach him to write the papers and you can review and assist in revising them so eventually he can do much of it on his own.

If you do follow anything I write, except the sleeping with frat girls (I was making a point), be strong willed about it. Don't be rude, just know your Christian position is in the right. These positions are more than simply Christian, it is the way you become and remain a man.

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #14 on:** September 24, 2012, 05:51:22 PM »

Asking someone to do something unethical is a big red flag. That's not a friend.

As far as the flesh being weak..well, don't let yourself make excuses. You are responsible for your choices, so do yourself a favor and don't enter situations where your weakness might be exploited. Things can go wrong so quickly.