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Offline AnthonyPadua

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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #30 on: Yesterday at 06:53:34 AM »
Imagine if as a man, all you had to do was be kind, sweet, and loyal and as a result you could get all of this?
Yes but realistically most men cannot provide nowdays so these girls now have to compete with the other ladies for the same men lol. 

Offline AnthonyPadua

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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #31 on: Yesterday at 06:55:29 AM »
At some stage in a young girl's life, the father needs to talk to her very seriously about how men look at women, because they have no idea other than the fact that when they dress a certain way they get more male attention. This really needs to come from the father, who will explain how the male eye functions. An immodestly dressed girl is to man, what an abandoned wallet looks like to a thief. The temptation, however brief is still there, even if he does nothing, she has in fact provoked a sinful feeling.
 
We have a good friend here with two daughters and he explained to them, that men look at girls in a binary way. Some girls are for a temporary "good time" and there are some who we can marry. A decent catholic man will ignore the "good time" girls and she will therefore only get attention from bad catholics, immigrants and others.

This talk was very useful for his daughters who have always been modestly but elegantly dressed. One married very young and has already has her first child. 

Generally the girls with liberal mothers dress immodestly so even if the sons are quite elegantly dressed, it seems difficult to imagine that anyone will want marry the daughters.

A girl has between the ages of 18 and 23 to catch the best possible man she can get. After that her options are rapidly reduced, so if she spends these precious years dressing to attract the wrong type of man, then basically she has wasted her best shot.

It's not that complicated. Be modest and you will probably find a man, have a family, a home, and protection for the rest of your life, without even having to build a career.

Or dress immodestly, have a party life start getting worried at 29 years old that you have no-one and then find that all the best men are taken and they wouldn't want you even if they weren't.

A woman earns love from preserving what she has, whilst a man earns love from building his life. He will happily provide security for a woman who has retained her purity.
Great post.


Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #32 on: Yesterday at 07:11:52 AM »
I'm looking for opinions on how to deal with a situation. Our daughter is 20 years old and lives at home. She was raised to dress modestly and attended an SSPX school. After graduation she immediately abandoned dressing modestly.

We have repeatedly told her to at least put on a skirt, reminded her of the reason for modesty and even threatened to remove her from the house but to no avail. She might wear a dress for a day then it's back to shorts or pants. She is an extremely vain girl who is infatuated with the world.
Do not threaten anything you are not willing to follow up on, otherwise your words mean nothing.

Do not nag her, just take away her privileges, tell her it is her choice whether the privileges come or go, depending on if she wants to follow the rules or not.

Spend time with her, take her out and get to know her as a person. She is not finding the love from her family, so she is trying to find it from outside the family. You need to make that connection with her, she needs to get to know you so she can see you as someone to respect. But as of now, you all mean very little to her, that is why she can easily ignore you and cause scandal to her siblings.

Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #33 on: Yesterday at 07:23:53 AM »
Do not threaten anything you are not willing to follow up on, otherwise your words mean nothing.

Do not nag her, just take away her privileges, tell her it is her choice whether the privileges come or go, depending on if she wants to follow the rules or not.

Spend time with her, take her out and get to know her as a person. She is not finding the love from her family, so she is trying to find it from outside the family. You need to make that connection with her, she needs to get to know you so she can see you as someone to respect. But as of now, you all mean very little to her, that is why she can easily ignore you and cause scandal to her siblings.
If she has a decent Godfather whom she respects, this is another person you could turn to for help. 

Offline Matthew

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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #34 on: Yesterday at 07:39:25 AM »
Some men have little/no interest in women who they don't find physically attractive. So it's not strange men suddenly find them attractive, since now they can 'See' what they like.. also i disagree on the second point.

Yes, but most women are "attractive" to a man's lower nature when she shows off key parts of her body. It's a question of lust though, not being truly beautiful or interesting as a person. You open the floodgates alright -- but NOT to any men the woman is going to find long-term happiness with. Not any men the father would want for his daughter. Not marriage material.