I'm looking for opinions on how to deal with a situation. Our daughter is 20 years old and lives at home. She was raised to dress modestly and attended an SSPX school. After graduation she immediately abandoned dressing modestly.
We have repeatedly told her to at least put on a skirt, reminded her of the reason for modesty and even threatened to remove her from the house but to no avail. She might wear a dress for a day then it's back to shorts or pants. She is an extremely vain girl who is infatuated with the world.
Do not threaten anything you are not willing to follow up on, otherwise your words mean nothing.
Do not nag her, just take away her privileges, tell her it is her choice whether the privileges come or go, depending on if she wants to follow the rules or not.
Spend time with her, take her out and get to know her as a person. She is not finding the love from her family, so she is trying to find it from outside the family. You need to make that connection with her, she needs to get to know you so she can see you as someone to respect. But as of now, you all mean very little to her, that is why she can easily ignore you and cause scandal to her siblings.