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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #25 on: Today at 02:48:47 AM »
It depends upon the man, what attracts him, and the woman, not only how she’s dressed, but her figure shape the good God gave her. Plus, there are perverts out there who choose to exercise no control over their baser instincts, no matter how modestly a woman is dressed. A 20 year woman should know what to do should she find herself without fault of her own, in such a situation. How about a class in self-defense for women?  Short of conceal carry or a taser, and mace, there are means of self-protection.
These are the Six Tiers of Female Security in order. Note that modest attire falls under the very first tier.
Prevent
Conceal
Flee
Broadcast
Fight
Notify

Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #26 on: Today at 03:29:40 AM »
At some stage in a young girl's life, the father needs to talk to her very seriously about how men look at women, because they have no idea other than the fact that when they dress a certain way they get more male attention. This really needs to come from the father, who will explain how the male eye functions. An immodestly dressed girl is to man, what an abandoned wallet looks like to a thief. The temptation, however brief is still there, even if he does nothing, she has in fact provoked a sinful feeling. 
 
We have a good friend here with two daughters and he explained to them, that men look at girls in a binary way. Some girls are for a temporary "good time" and there are some who we can marry. A decent catholic man will ignore the "good time" girls and she will therefore only get attention from bad catholics, immigrants and others. 

This talk was very useful for his daughters who have always been modestly but elegantly dressed. One married very young and has already has her first child.  

Generally the girls with liberal mothers dress immodestly so even if the sons are quite elegantly dressed, it seems difficult to imagine that anyone will want marry the daughters. 

A girl has between the ages of 18 and 23 to catch the best possible man she can get. After that her options are rapidly reduced, so if she spends these precious years dressing to attract the wrong type of man, then basically she has wasted her best shot.

It's not that complicated. Be modest and you will probably find a man, have a family, a home, and protection for the rest of your life, without even having to build a career. 

Or dress immodestly, have a party life start getting worried at 29 years old that you have no-one and then find that all the best men are taken and they wouldn't want you even if they weren't. 

A woman earns love from preserving what she has, whilst a man earns love from building his life. He will happily provide security for a woman who has retained her purity.






Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #27 on: Today at 04:30:47 AM »
I'm looking for opinions on how to deal with a situation. Our daughter is 20 years old and lives at home. She was raised to dress modestly and attended an SSPX school. After graduation she immediately abandoned dressing modestly.

We have repeatedly told her to at least put on a skirt, reminded her of the reason for modesty and even threatened to remove her from the house but to no avail. She might wear a dress for a day then it's back to shorts or pants. She is an extremely vain girl who is infatuated with the world.

I will offer all my rosaries and prayers the next two weeks for you and your family.

You seem to know what the right thing to do is, so you need no lectures. Just hang in there brother.


Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #28 on: Today at 04:31:20 AM »
At some stage in a young girl's life, the father needs to talk to her very seriously about how men look at women, because they have no idea other than the fact that when they dress a certain way they get more male attention. This really needs to come from the father, who will explain how the male eye functions. An immodestly dressed girl is to man, what an abandoned wallet looks like to a thief. The temptation, however brief is still there, even if he does nothing, she has in fact provoked a sinful feeling.
 
We have a good friend here with two daughters and he explained to them, that men look at girls in a binary way. Some girls are for a temporary "good time" and there are some who we can marry. A decent catholic man will ignore the "good time" girls and she will therefore only get attention from bad catholics, immigrants and others.

This talk was very useful for his daughters who have always been modestly but elegantly dressed. One married very young and has already has her first child. 

Generally the girls with liberal mothers dress immodestly so even if the sons are quite elegantly dressed, it seems difficult to imagine that anyone will want marry the daughters.

A girl has between the ages of 18 and 23 to catch the best possible man she can get. After that her options are rapidly reduced, so if she spends these precious years dressing to attract the wrong type of man, then basically she has wasted her best shot.

It's not that complicated. Be modest and you will probably find a man, have a family, a home, and protection for the rest of your life, without even having to build a career.

Or dress immodestly, have a party life start getting worried at 29 years old that you have no-one and then find that all the best men are taken and they wouldn't want you even if they weren't.

A woman earns love from preserving what she has, whilst a man earns love from building his life. He will happily provide security for a woman who has retained her purity.


Solid, solid reflections. 

Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #29 on: Today at 05:09:57 AM »
It's not that complicated. Be modest and you will probably find a man, have a family, a home, and protection for the rest of your life, without even having to build a career.
Imagine if as a man, all you had to do was be kind, sweet, and loyal and as a result you could get all of this?