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Offline Gray2023

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Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
« Reply #255 on: Yesterday at 05:56:40 AM »
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  • Are you married? Women can be very contradictory. They can be very irrational. They are not logical like men. They don't stick to one plan. Their decisions and choices change like the wind. Add ocd into the mix and you get the picture.
    Are you the Op?  When you write a response can you sign that you are the OP? I know someone might lie (I would hope not because we are Catholics and shouldn't lie. )

    I really do feel for your situation. One of the posts awhile ago said she ate in bed and didn't cook for you much.  Was that you?  It seems contradictory to all her ocd.
    1 Corinthians: Chapter 13 "4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;"

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    « Reply #256 on: Yesterday at 06:15:36 AM »
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  • The story could be fake, but I'm inclined to believe it's true but with bias as no one can really articulate someone else's motivations, especially when frustrated by their behavior.

    HOWEVER, I prefer to think of it along the lines of "does this conversation have any benefit?" It seems at least a couple of other members feel their marriages bear a resemblance to the OP's and so I do believe the conversation and advice given is worthwhile. I wish OP would have settled for one layer of anonymity (random screen name) rather than putting this thread here where it's so hard to even guess at who's saying what.
    I think it's probably true as well, but at this point (255 posts and 18 pages) I don't think this discussion serves any good purpose.  OP needs to get professional/priestly guidance and I'm unsure why he hasn't done it yet.  When he does, he could then get back to the forum and let it know what he learns (anonymously of course).  That would be beneficial to others who have similar issues.


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    « Reply #257 on: Yesterday at 07:04:14 AM »
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  • Then again, if this thread is all a fake, then I'm going with the OP being Croix.

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    « Reply #258 on: Yesterday at 07:45:18 AM »
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  • When I saw "puts meat on the floor to defrost" I thought this whole post (once again ::)) is a load of honkey. most likely. 

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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #259 on: Yesterday at 07:51:52 AM »
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  • That would be too easy if the problem was me. The problem is that arguing leads to horrible things be said. Especially on her part, "threats of breaking up family". Just need to find professional help. She has no interest in pro help unfortunately.
    Some of the thoughts expressed herein might be of help to you, OP:



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    « Reply #260 on: Yesterday at 09:35:04 AM »
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  • 18 pages on a wife putting meat on the floor.
    must be a slow news week.

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    « Reply #261 on: Yesterday at 09:47:01 AM »
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  • The users that complain about anonymous posts in a sub forum where anonymous post are allowed. Who does that benefit???
    They're just being Karens, they can scroll along and not participate in them. 

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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #262 on: Yesterday at 09:49:44 AM »
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  • Are you married? Women can be very contradictory. They can be very irrational. They are not logical like men. They don't stick to one plan. Their decisions and choices change like the wind. Add ocd into the mix and you get the picture.
    Exactly. She could also be vindictive and trying to get attention. Not the OP. Just tired of seeing posts that say this situation is fake. Obviously, they don't live in the real world or talk to anyone. I have family members acting in a way that you'd think it's a soap opera. 


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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #263 on: Yesterday at 10:47:39 AM »
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  • Exactly. She could also be vindictive and trying to get attention. Not the OP. Just tired of seeing posts that say this situation is fake. Obviously, they don't live in the real world or talk to anyone. I have family members acting in a way that you'd think it's a soap opera.
    I could be mistaken, but I don’t think anyone is doubting this kind of thing isn’t happening with husbands and wives. It’s pretty common for women to threaten to leave, call the cops, take the kids, do all sorts of caniving manipulative things, etc.

    What is being brought into question is whether the person posting it is making it up to troll the forum. There’s been several things he’s said that make me think that. Just one example, he said he’s not going to leave her, like that wasn’t an option at all. Then a few pages later he’s asking if he should cal it quits. Also he starts off the thread about his wife thawing out meat on the floor which is…. Interesting. But then it turned into all the problems about his wife. 

    I don’t think it’s wrong to question it, especially since it’s anonymous. Nobody likes being taken for a fool. Even if it is a made up situation, like Mater, I agree it’s a good discussion topic because many men do go through it.

    If it is real, I do feel for the OP. Her behaviors go beyond post partum blues. 
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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #264 on: Yesterday at 10:51:44 AM »
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  • I could be mistaken, but I don’t think anyone is doubting this kind of thing isn’t happening with husbands and wives. It’s pretty common for women to threaten to leave, call the cops, take the kids, do all sorts of caniving manipulative things, etc.

    What is being brought into question is whether the person posting it is making it up to troll the forum. There’s been several things he’s said that make me think that. Just one example, he said he’s not going to leave her, like that wasn’t an option at all. Then a few pages later he’s asking if he should cal it quits. Also he starts off the thread about his wife thawing out meat on the floor which is…. Interesting. But then it turned into all the problems about his wife.

    I don’t think it’s wrong to question it, especially since it’s anonymous. Nobody likes being taken for a fool. Even if it is a made up situation, like Mater, I agree it’s a good discussion topic because many men do go through it.

    If it is real, I do feel for the OP. Her behaviors go beyond post partum blues.
    No doubt she could wanting to be leaving him for whatever reason. It's just the meat on the floor thing is just too farfetched to me. :laugh1:

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    « Reply #265 on: Yesterday at 11:00:53 AM »
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  • Not the OP, but I see the meat on the floor as the straw that broke the camel's back. 


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    « Reply #266 on: Yesterday at 11:17:33 AM »
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  • It’s pretty common for women to threaten to leave, call the cops, take the kids, do all sorts of caniving manipulative things, etc.
    These actions are all grave sins.  These are big-time assaults on the marriage sacrament.  I’d argue these are much worse than adultery.  

    What's eye-opening is that because such is so common, that the man is still shamed for the (assumed) blame he had in his wife’s anti-catholic actions.  He was criticized for not “manning up” or being “wimpy” etc etc.  This is the real problem.  

    In this story the wife is clearly wrong, and people still can’t accept this.  Society won’t change until Catholics call evil as evil.  

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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #267 on: Yesterday at 11:24:48 AM »
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  • No doubt she could wanting to be leaving him for whatever reason. It's just the meat on the floor thing is just too farfetched to me. :laugh1:
    Haha. I am still trying to wrap my mind around it, and have found myself thinking about it when I’m not reading the forum! We were on our way to watch an out of town ball game last night and I was literally going through placing the meat on the floor in my mind and going back and forth on wether I thought that could be normal or not in Europe. Then I asked my husband what he thought and he laughed at me. :laugh1: The things you read on CathInfo! 
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    Re: Wife defrosts meat on the floor
    « Reply #268 on: Yesterday at 01:10:45 PM »
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  • She is. She acts like a child. I get up at night every few hours to take care of the baby. She gets her sleep. Then when she gets up earlier in the morning she eats and drinks in bed right next to me while I'm trying to sleep for another few hours. I ask her politely to eat in the other room and then she argues with me why she should be able to do that.
    Is this the OP?  It seems counter to her OCD issues.  Clean feet, but you can eat in bed?
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    She is. She acts like a child. I get up at night every few hours to take care of the baby. She gets her sleep. Then when she gets up earlier in the morning she eats and drinks in bed right next to me while I'm trying to sleep for another few hours. I ask her politely to eat in the other room and then she argues with me why she should be able to do that.
    Instead, psychopathy is characterised by an extreme lack of empathy. Psychopaths may also be manipulative, charming and exploitative, and behave in an impulsive and risky manner. They may lack conscience or guilt, and refuse to accept responsibility for their actions.


    Psychopathy is a form of antisocial behavior that occurs with traits like impulsivity, lack of empathy, and stunted or low emotional development.