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You need to get marriage counseling from your priest as soon as possible. This behavior is mortally sinful, and he needs to tell her that.

Unfortunately, your belief that she rejects Vatican 2 is probably another deception on her part. Her behavior is that of a modernist, not of someone who believes in the Catholic Faith.

This is a very common syndrome, that people are raised in the new church and adopts its religion, and somewhere down the line they think they became traditional Catholic because they begin attending a trad chapel. They usually do reject the Novus Ordo, and accept the traditional Mass, but they retain the faith and morals of modernism, not Catholicism.

This manifests itself differently with men and women. With men, they usually just don't go to church, despite claiming to be traditional Catholic, and don't practice much religion at all. With women, it typically manifests itself in their rejection of Catholic teachings on marriage. They believe they can walk out on their marriage (as in the case of your wife), they don't believe they have to obey their husband, they don't believe in the marriage debt, and sometimes they even accept contraception.

In both cases, the problem is the lack of acceptance of belief in Church teaching. So, when a priest warns them that their behavior is contrary to faith and morals, they believe they can simply reject his words like they would disagree with someone who calling into a sports talk radio program who says something about their team's quarterback that they think is inaccurate. They do not believe they must accept the Church's teachings on faith and morals, and thus they are not Catholics.

Proof of this usually is that these people believe they can still receive the sacraments despite rejecting the priest's warnings, which shows a lack of belief in Church teaching and making themselves their own rule of faith, which is the very definition of modernism.

Your wife is probably one of those types, but the sooner you get your priest involved, the sooner the situation can be troubleshooted and the damage can be minimized.

I agree with the bolded, but I'm not convinced that her rejection of Vatican II is a deception.  Maybe the OP can shed some light on this, but I think the main issue here is her OCD.  She has a sickness which has taken control of her.  She is completely irrational.

This is sad. I see this happen a lot.  I am not sure how the problem can be solved.

The OP should try to get a priest involved.  If that doesn't work, is there a well respected older couple in the parish that you can speak with?

The problem only gets solved when it is no longer beneficial for women to divorce.  Most state laws allow divorce for frivolous reasons, and then wives get rewarded with $.  In a catholic country, women wouldn't get much $ at all, and if they got a divorce, would have to support themselves, which most couldn't do.  So it would force spouses to settle disputes and act like adults.  As it is, a divorce is a strong temptation, especially when most women have been indoctrinated with anti-male and anti-patriarchy messaging.  The satanic civil courts are anti-family and promote destruction of society.

The problem only gets solved when it is no longer beneficial for women to divorce.  Most state laws allow divorce for frivolous reasons, and then wives get rewarded with $.  In a catholic country, women wouldn't get much $ at all, and if they got a divorce, would have to support themselves, which most couldn't do.  So it would force spouses to settle disputes and act like adults.  As it is, a divorce is a strong temptation, especially when most women have been indoctrinated with anti-male and anti-patriarchy messaging.  The satanic civil courts are anti-family and promote destruction of society.

Yes, but we can't wait around for laws to change.  So how do we help families in our current churches not go down this path?

We really need to start thinking outside the box.

Yes, but we can't wait around for laws to change.  So how do we help families in our current churches not go down this path?

We really need to start thinking outside the box.

Remind them of hell and Divine punishment.  Outside of this, you can't stop free will.

I agree with the bolded, but I'm not convinced that her rejection of Vatican II is a deception.  Maybe the OP can shed some light on this, but I think the main issue here is her OCD.  She has a sickness which has taken control of her.  She is completely irrational.

OCD is typical of perfectionists.

I don't want to give bad advice which might backfire, but could the OP perhaps regularly invite friends or neighbours to the home as she reserve this behavior to the home and seems to understand that it's not normal and therefore doesn't behave this way in front of others. 

It would be difficult to imagine an italian Mamma behaving like this, in a culture people come in and out of the house unannounced thoughout the day.     

Wife defrosts meat on the floor in its packaging that is open.

Anyone do this?

Personally I would never do this, my toddler would play with it. I defrost meat in a bowl in the fridge overnight or countertop. 

I saw that you said she wasn’t like this before you got married. Did this kind of behavior start before pregnancy or during or after? Sorry if I missed it.
I’m just wondering because sometimes when horomones are out of whack or there are nutritional deficiencies a woman can be a whole different person.
When I am deficient or am having a hard time balancing horomones, internal rage and irrational thoughts are prevalent. I have to constantly work to control it with my will. When I am well balanced I do not have this problem at all. Post partum is the absolute worst time for it. I might suggest asking her what she is taking for supplements and look into what kind of nutrition she is getting.
I would start off with these gentle measures. It might fix it all. I’d be happy to recommend some supplements.  I agree with some marital counseling from a trusted priest after that. If she really is just this obstinate, I am very sorry. If she is going to leave you over thawing food on the floor, she will do it with everything else. I’d start docuмenting everything. Write down the weird things. I agree with FarmerWife, you should put your foot down. She will either respect your authority or ship out, but if it ends in a battle for the baby, you will have plenty of docuмentation to say she isn’t of sound mind. Im sorry to be forward, but it’s best to be prepared.