What's wrong with marrying a trad girl?  Why are so many Catholic men chasing prots, divorcees, pagans, and then posting on this forum asking if it's OK?

Probably because there are not many Traditionalist women in general.

Most people who attend Traditionalist chapels do some kind of traveling, so, they usually live far from each other, while non-Catholic or Novus Ordo Catholics women are much more widespread.

So, it is tempting to look at the pretty girl you see everyday and who might be a agreeable companion.

What's wrong with marrying a trad girl?  Why are so many Catholic men chasing prots, divorcees, pagans, and then posting on this forum asking if it's OK?

Judge from my own experience, I think some men just don't deserve trad girl. Weak men, degenerate men everywhere that pretend to be traditional.
Then afterwards they go anonymous asking advices for their broken marriage that no one but the divine can fix because their wives want to do this and that which are against catholic teaching.

Judge from my own experience, I think some men just don't deserve trad girl. Weak men, degenerate men everywhere that pretend to be traditional.
Then afterwards they go anonymous asking advices for their broken marriage that no one but the divine can fix because their wives want to do this and that which are against catholic teaching.

Your post gives the impression that you think that some men do not deserve you as a potential wife because you are a good traditional girl while they are weak and degenerate while pretending to be traditional.

Is my understanding correct?

Judge from my own experience, I think some men just don't deserve trad girl. Weak men, degenerate men everywhere that pretend to be traditional.
Then afterwards they go anonymous asking advices for their broken marriage that no one but the divine can fix because their wives want to do this and that which are against catholic teaching.

With all humility, I'll concede that there are a lot of weak, degenerate men. However, women aren't the prize in a relationship. Most women do not deserve a traditional man either.

I blame feminism and the havoc it's wreaked on both men and women.  Of course that's not the ONLY thing to blame but it's a big piece of the pie.  I've seen it both ways. 

Men that just want to play video games all day, watch porn, watch some Jєωtainment, get fat, not work on  learning or improving themselves in any way, and go to bed, rinse and repeat and expect some great woman with 10/10 looks to just want him because he's "nice."

Women that think they should be pampered and worshipped just for being somewhat attractive (or just being a woman in general) and expect constant attention and if they don't get it the way they FEEL they deserve, resort to cheating and/or playing mind games with the man to get him mad at her, etc. and then proceed to blame him for her lack of self control, betrayal, and indecency.  Their feminist friends in their ears giving them bad advice doesn't help either. 

The whole male/female dynamic is a complete mess and although Trads are typically more decent overall these issues have trickled down to Traddom as well.  Men and women mostly just use each other for "adult situations" and don't even really like (or love) one another.  I've considered writing a book on this subject to hopefully help restore some sanity to both men and women and help each actually live up to what God intended, as both men and women have "lost the plot" on what the opposite sex wants and most importantly what God wants.

So yes, as Laszlo pointed out, it's a case by case basis but I too have seen more women mess things up in this regard than men although the men that do mess up tend to mess it up worse.  This is just my experiences and what I've observed though. 

I agree. And I don't know why people behaved like a melt just because I gave one out of so many possible reasons. It's like a pizza caused someone's sickness and I suggested maybe the meat on it wasn't fresh then people got angry at me not mentioning the dough might be the ingredient got bad.
And for the last paragraph, is it possible that you know more women messing things up because you mostly heard it from men- since your friends are mostly men? 

This was me. Also I've seen "trad" men like EWPJ mentioned, yet not women like that. Trad women I am familiar with are either happily married now living a virtuous life, or single and introverted and they hardly even interact with men let alone "playing games".

I agree. And I don't know why people behaved like a melt just because I gave one out of so many possible reasons. It's like a pizza caused someone's sickness and I suggested maybe the meat on it wasn't fresh then people got angry at me not mentioning the dough might be the ingredient got bad.
And for the last paragraph, is it possible that you know more women messing things up because you mostly heard it from men- since your friends are mostly men?

I pretty much lumped men and women in general (both secular and trad) and the trads of both are better overall but some of those bad traits of (secular) men and women found their way into traddom (yes I know that's not a word) as well.  It doesn't help that trad men and women are bombarded and saturated with a pagan and godless culture and by default that poison will make its way into trad men and womens thinking and life to some degree.  Unfortunately, I don't really have a circle of trad friends so most of my sample size is from seculars but the trads I have talked to in passing here and there over the years have similar stories.

There might be some bias on my part since I am a man and understand men better by default but I try VERY hard to see both sides and see things down the middle to try to get to the actual real story.  Since I am a man I will see things through the rationale, reason, and logic of a man so I as such won't completely understand the female side but I do understand women very well.

I get men and women telling me about all their problems with their bf/gf, spouse, partner, etc. and whether it's a man or a woman telling the story I always immediately default to..."there's two sides to this story" and try not to just take the others word for it.  Long stories short usually the truth ends up being somewhere in the middle and one or the other or both will jump to the wrong conclusion on something that was said or done and that's usually where the problem(s) start and then it often times snowballs and cascades.  

There's an old saying..."There's 3 sides to every story, his side, her side, and the truth." and there is a lot of truth to that.  All in all it has to do with the expectations the other has and men and women don't understand that the other processes the world differently than they do and one word or phrase can mean something completely different to a man and a woman.  It's actually pretty wild and if I do end up writing the book I'll cover that as well.  It should be required in the education system that men and women take a semester (or more) on understanding the other and learning how the opposite sex thinks and processes the world.  Just that alone would be proactive in fixing a lot of future problems.  

"If it weren't for the fact that they can produce fertile offspring together, most data/facts/observations suggest that men and women are different species."

Or something to that effect.

Seriously, look it up. The differences between men and women go FAR beyond what's below the belt or how they go pee. Women being able to bear children, hormonal differences, and radically different brain configuration are the BEGINNING of the male/female differences. The entire body is different, from top to bottom. Digestive system, skin, hair, proportions, muscle structure, most common diseases/disorders, everything!