'We do not prohibit second marriages, but, on the other hand, we do not advise them; for not all that is allowed is profitable. The widow has no command to remain a widow, but she is counseled to do so; and the counsel has not only been once given, but has been often repeated. Do not say: "I am without assistance." This is the customary excuse of her who wishes to re-marry. Neither should you say: "I am all alone." Loneliness is favorable to purity; the modest woman loves retirement; she who is not so, is anxious to go out and parade herself. You have, you say, business to transact? And are there no lawyers in the world? But you are in dread of enemies? Well, then, our Lord himself pleads your case before the judges and says to them: "Deal justly with the widow." You are anxious to save your property? Chastity is also a property of the highest value, and the widow keeps it far better than the married woman. Do you still wish you get married? You are allowed to do so. I make no inquiries with regard to your motives: why do you dissemble when giving them? If your reasons are virtuous, state them; if otherwise, be silent about them. Accuse neither your relatives, nor God, when you complain of want of support; do not say you marry for the sake of your children, while depriving them of a mother.'
St. Ambrose of Milan
'Alas! They allege, as reason for their marriage, the very thing that ought to prevent them from doing so; for, by her second marriage, the widow places over her children, not a father who will provide for them, but an enemy. If you have children, why marry again? And if you have none, does not experience teach you to fear a like barrenness in the future?'
St. Jerome