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Jaynek · « **Reply #20 on:** February 23, 2016, 01:51:12 PM »

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OP here.

many people would say that staying with an abusive spouse is insanity. If the wife has an ex boyfriend who promises to cherish her and respect her unlike the present husband why should they be like that? How does society benefit with people being unhappily married?

It is not required to stay with an abusive spouse. However, saying that people can can divorce and remarry whenever they are not happy led to the current situation of a 50% divorce rate. This situation means that millions of children suffer the pain of growing up in a broken family. Millions of children are facing the increase risk of problems associated with being fatherless - crime, drug abuse, teen pregnancy, etc.

Society benefits when divorce is not allowed because it means that there are more stable homes for children to grow up in. It does far less harm to a child to have unhappy parents than to have divorced parents. Divorce is devastating to children. Strong families are the basis good spiritual and emotional development. That is what is lost when people make a god of "being happy" rather than follow the commands of the true God.

It does not matter if this particular couple does not have children. Every divorce is an attack on marriage. Every attempt to justify divorce is an attack on marriage. And marriage is for creating a nurturing environment for children. When you destroy marriage, you destroy children and when you destroy children, you destroy society.

Ladislaus · « **Reply #21 on:** February 24, 2016, 09:07:50 AM »

There really is no "apologetic" here.

Either one believes and submits to the laws of God as clarified by the teaching of the Catholic Church or one does not. If one does not, then there can be no convincing them. It's really that simple. So this thread is a utter waste of time.

Tiffany · « **Reply #22 on:** February 26, 2016, 05:48:44 PM »

FYI Matthew neither one of us were Catholic but my husband did change overnight around the delivery time of our first child.

Tiffany · « **Reply #23 on:** February 26, 2016, 05:51:31 PM »

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I think we need to differentiate between separating but remaining faithful and divorcing and remarrying.

If a spouse is bringing pornography, hookers, dope, or crime into the home you have a moral duty to throw them out or move yourself out. Period. Don't be stupid. Or they are in an affair and won't stop. Yes you must take drastic steps to get them to stop.

But growing apart or falling out of love or realizing you are still in love with someone from your past....nope, sorry. You have to cohabitate with your spouse and make do somehow. Try a devotion to the Blessed Virgin to ease your sorrows.

Only the OP knows why her husband beats her. If she's innocent of wrongdoing then she needs to leave until it's safe to return. If he slapped her and called her bad names because she's committing adultery by having an "emotional affair" then she's culpable.

If my spouse was having online or IRL romances with an ex and refused to quit I'd have no problem throwing their bum to the curb. Sometimes you have to wake up your spouse. Continuing to feed them cake when they are being naughty isn't going to bring them to repentance. I've seen a man lose absolutely everything (wife, kids, home, career, dignity, his Faith) just for some "strange". We are talking about a "traditional" Catholic man who threw everything important away for the excitement of variety.

If you have to civil divorce for custody or financial rights you have no choice but to remain solitary and celibate. That means no dating, opposite sex friendships, Facebook exchanges, getting in touch.....you know what I mean. And you have to work towards reconcilation after you both repent.

Separation needs to be under the guidance of a good priest.

OP here.

many people would say that staying with an abusive spouse is insanity. If the wife has an ex boyfriend who promises to cherish her and respect her unlike the present husband why should they be like that? How does society benefit with people being unhappily married?

If the wife has a an ex boyfriend who is promising this, she should cut off all contact with him.
I am calling troll here with the "how does society benefit" question.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #24 on:** February 26, 2016, 06:17:28 PM »

I have a good husband. Thank you, God.

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