That's just dishonest. The general rule throughout the history of Christendom was family involvement in bringing a man and woman together to eventually marry. There were exceptions of course and always will be. But the exception has now become the rule and that should be unacceptable to all traditional Catholics. There are no rules to follow anymore which is a massive contributor to the problems in tradition.
How are parents supposed to teach their children if there are no rules to follow? Pray a 54 day novena and do whatever you want after that? Do we apply this same logic to anything else in life?
I would love to hear what St. Alphonsus Ligouri would say about all of this. He said most marriages back in his day were blasphemous. Imagine what he would say today.
Family involvement is much wider and general of an idea than your original ideal, which was the responsibility of the father. You are ultimately seeking arranged marriages, which were a thing in the past, but not as widely practiced as you suggest. After all, marriage is a choice. Both parties have a choice in the matter. And God designed people to be attracted to each other. After the initial attraction, then the family would get involved to help discern.
If a father were to get together a bunch of suitors for his daughter, it's still her choice. That's the idea of the YAG. To get a bunch of Traditionalist catholics together to see if there are any attraction. If there is, then the suitors would meet the parents. But you're against YAG, so you're arguing for arranged marriages. I have nothing against arranged marriages but I don't think that idea is going to happen much.
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