No wonder this (these) man (men) can’t find a wife!

Says the single woman. 

On one hand you shouldn't eat McDonalds slop..but on the other hand a lady who agrees to go there on a first date is probably frugal and humble 

Is McDonald’s ok as a first date if the man has to pay?

Yes! 

Before my husband and I even went on our first “date” he told me on no uncertain terms that he was not well off, but he had a house and he got his bills paid. He also informed me that I would have to be frugal if we married and that I would have to do without a lot. He definately did not beat around the bush, he just came out and said it. That was fine with me. Therefore, if he suggested taking me somewhere very fancy and high priced on our first date or any date I would think he was a fool for spending outside of his means. We still have never ate out at a fancy restaurant. 

So, if she’s interested in you, or loves you even before your first date (like I did him), she would not care at all. She would just be thrilled to be with you. 

On one hand you shouldn't eat McDonalds slop..but on the other hand a lady who agrees to go there on a first date is probably frugal and humble

You don’t need to eat any food. Just get one of their drinks. 

Yes!

Before my husband and I even went on our first “date” he told me on no uncertain terms that he was not well off, but he had a house and he got his bills paid. He also informed me that I would have to be frugal if we married and that I would have to do without a lot. He definately did not beat around the bush, he just came out and said it. That was fine with me. Therefore, if he suggested taking me somewhere very fancy and high priced on our first date or any date I would think he was a fool for spending outside of his means. We still have never ate out at a fancy restaurant.

So, if she’s interested in you, or loves you even before your first date (like I did him), she would not care at all. She would just be thrilled to be with you.

So how handsome is your husband?

Just wondering how long did you know him for before you loved him? And how did you know you loved him?

Just wondering how long did you know him for before you loved him? And how did you know you loved him?

About a month. We found each other on Catholic Match, and he came to visit me 5 weeks later. I lived 5 hours away.  I knew that first visit. I didn’t have nerves, butterflies or anything like that. We had pretty much all the important conversations online or over the phone. When he came it was like visiting with an old friend who I had known forever. 100% natural. When I thought about marrying him, there was no reservation only hopeful expectation. He proposed a month later. 

I had actually met him one time a couple years before at a New Year’s Eve party. Also, a mutual friend was his closest friend, so I definately wasn’t flying blind. 

In ancient Israel, marriage ages varied based on cultural, social, and economic factors, with limited direct evidence from primary sources. Based on historical and biblical scholarship, males typically married between 15 and 20 years old, often closer to 18–20, as they were expected to be mature enough to provide for a family. Females generally married younger, between 12 and 16 years old, with betrothals sometimes occurring even earlier, around puberty (often 12–14), as fertility and family-building were prioritized.

I know plenty of guys that started to lose their hairline/hair in their late teens. Telling guys to wait until their late 20s and 30s is modern nonsense on par with telling women to wait past 22 (cough sspx cough).


Sure times are tuff but you would expect families to work together and make sacrifices so their children can get married when they are most desirable.

I also know a few 30+ individuals (men and women) who aren't married (and want a spouse) yet I just don't see it happening.

Most men don't lose their hairlines in their late teens... That's a rarity. Does it happen, yea, but it's rare.

It's not as much the age as being ready to provide. Sure, find a gal that's cool with living in a trailer on half an acre of land. I personally don't see anything wrong with that. But you need to think collectively, it's better that men be older. Not necessarily by 10 years, but older and able to handle conflict. Handling conflict is something I'm noticing a lot of younger guys are having trouble with these days. That's the fault mainly of mom and dad. Mainly dad.

Women looking for marriage in their 30's is not ideal at all. Sorry. With men, it's usually not a big deal at all. If you're a homely looking guy in your 20's, your most likely a homely looking guy in your 30's, just with probably more money. A lot of you dudes are not even remotely good with the opposite sex. This is learned over time. Socialization is important for both sexes.

Those guys in their 30s are visibly old looking (most guys start showing aging past 25) and at that age more men will have hair problems. Most guys are plain which is a problem in today's world as being plain or average means you don't stand out to the ladies.

I think most gals do not want a man who is too much older than then (unless the guy is handsome or looks young for his age).

Also skins issues like acne scars or dark spots/moles can be a barrier. Basically being average is difficult enough but each flaw (age, hair, skin etc) only adds to the difficultly and I've noticed that cameras make skin issues more apparent (most likely due to how the lens focuses on everything which makes blemishes stand out more).

What's your take on when a woman should get married? I feel bad for the 30+ yr old girl, she has a lovely personality but she is mixed and unattractive and there aren't many older guys, some of them are white and vaxxed while she is unvaxxed. So that's 2 more incompatibilities, her age only makes it more difficult. I'm not sure if her parents realised that girls need to try to get married young and wasted her youth in not looking or they couldn't find anyone or she is too picky (I don't know because i don't know them that well).

Clear issues on both supply and demand side of things plus other dividers like race, vaccination status among other things can be a deal-breaker. Finding the right spouse isn't easy.