Quote from: Änσnymσus 11/12/2024, 12:13:51 AM
Half your list is stuff outside your control, like family, having an attractive face (unless you get surgery), intelligence, even health and aging is heavily effected by genetics, some guys go bald in their late teens for instance. Life's quite unfair, some people are simply more blessed by God than others, and the more you are given the more is expected from you.
And I never for a moment suggested that life WAS fair.
But you can have a deficit in one area if you're strong in other areas. It's a Total Score game. How people "weigh" the various factors varies a bit by person, which is why there's no "official" scoring system.
It's like finding a job. Theoretically, any company with an open position (for your career) could hire you. But again there are many factors. Some jobs you have throughout your career were a better fit than others.
Of course jobs don't last, especially these days. So it's a very imperfect analogy. But you can compare it to selling your house, or finding a job. Because sometimes that glaring "deal breaker" for one couple turns out to be "no big deal" for the next house-shopping couple, or even a "charming feature" for the next.
So your "total score" will be highest with the couple that WANTED a 13' mountain of dirt in the middle of the property, or a 12' deep pond at the edge of it. Your property is going to fare the best with a person for whom those items are FEATURES and not considered downsides.
But that's talking about something like height, facial features, etc. -- some things (like having a "past", poor health, poverty, disfigurement) are negatives to almost everyone -- even if they're more or less willing to ignore them.
Just like in the job hunting world, a software developer in his late 40's is always going to have a somewhat negative score in the "age" category. But like I said, if you find a company that values experience and maturity, you will have a higher score with them and be more likely to get hired, after all the other factors are taken into account as well.
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