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I agree with the comments above, which say they do have a right to know.   "sin has consequences that can affect relationships "

"a virgin has every right to know whether a prospective spouse used to sleep with 10 different people a week.  That would affect the person’s attitudes towards them, could make them more likely to be unfaithful, and there could even be STDs involved."

You should have thought about that before fornicating.  So a virgin would have every right to have expectations to marry the same.  Just because you confess and are forgiven a sin of theft doesn’t mean that there isn’t an injustice there that has to be made up for by restitution.  Now, the party from who you stole could forgive the debt but they don’t have to.  In having fornicated you are depriving the prospective spouse of something they have a right to ... exclusive lifelong intimacy.  So if you were to date a virgin, that person must be told that you’re not one so they can decide whether to forgive that debt.  If a prospective spouse asks you, you have to give an honest answer and not lie.  Lying could be grounds for annulment.  If you lied and claimed you were a virgin, that’s misrepresentation that could have altered the person’s decision to marry you.

This.

It's borderline misrepresentation, which is grounds for an annulment. If your spouse kept themselves pure for marriage, they certainly deserve to marry a virgin. Now they might CHOOSE to waive that right for various reasons (their own looks, slim pickins' in the spouse department, difficulty finding a spouse), but it must be THEIR CHOICE. "Virginity or no" is NOT a minor issue, but one that affects the rest of your life. There are statistics that show the greater # of partners, the smaller chance of a successful marriage.

I don't know if this applies to men as well (let's face it, men and women are different), but scientific data shows that for females (at least) the ability to pair-bond is seriously degraded with EACH added "partner".

But even if the virgin spouse was feeling lovey-dovey and accepted it at first, when the CONSEQUENCES reared their ugly head years down the road, that spouse might change his mind about accepting your "past". Talk about resentment which could destroy a marriage.

I believe once you accept something like that, you can't change your mind later and use it as grounds for an annulment. HOWEVER, the consequences will still be there. In other words, you could easily end up with a BAD MARRIAGE even if you don't end up with a NON-MARRIAGE. Wouldn't that be even worse?

Lastly, there's a world of difference between "dredging up old sins" and going into names, details -- and a quick "FYI, I'm not a virgin" or "I used to sleep around", or "I have been intimate with several people".

YES your future spouse has a right to know.