Found this today, stumbled across it while Googling for something else. It is an old Fisheaters post. Now, obviously, some people here will simply say she (Jenn) is lying or she is a feminist. But I've heard this complaint from other Trad women, sisters of SSPX priests, practising Catholics who go to mass every Sunday. It's not an uncommon complaint and the number of practising Trads who DON'T marry Traditionalists is rather high, as is the number of people who end up unmarried despite trying to find someone.
For some reason, some Trad women are put-off the more over-zealous Trad men. Whether that is justified or not I am sure is going to be fiercely debated. But in the last week we have a divorce threat from Gooch and now this post (above), both of which indicate that more than a tiny handful of Trad hardliners have these sorts of problems. I've seen similar issues in my 30+ years as Trad mass goer around the English speaking world. Not saying it is a huge problem, just a problem.
No reflection on the OP, here and perhaps someone can start another thread to discuss it; if desired. But it merits reflection on whether some Traditionalists are not making a rod for their own back. Even if the problem is 100% down to the evil of feminism, the fact remains that as a divorced or separated father you are going to have FAR less influence over your children's hearts and minds than a father who remains married.
Pragmatically speaking, would a man not be better off modifying his leadership style in order to keep his family together and have a 90% influence, rather than playing it by the anti-feminist book and risking the loss of control.
Quote from: Jenn
This thread is a lovely reminder of why I was so gun-shy of trad men when I was younger, and why I ultimately did not marry one --which of course presented a different set of problems. I was surrounded by men who called themselves "traditional Catholics" and were nothing of the sort. They were petty tyrants who's idea of being a trad husband was having the power to order around the peons because "wives be subject to your husbands" and kids "honor thy father". It shattered me, and it ultimately caused me to turn completely away from the faith for at least 7 years.
My daughter is at the age to start seriously dating (she's pushing 20). If she ever comes home with a man who calls himself a trad, I'm going to be on high alert. For her own protection. While my husband is Catholic in name only, I am profoundly grateful that I am not married to someone who will crush me in the name of "traditionalism" and put me in danger of walking away from the faith again. I endured those types of men when I had no choice. I will never, ever endure it again, and I'll go through hell and highwater to see to it that my daughter doesn't have to endure it.
A few years back, a young traditional man started coming to our church. My family is large with a good number of eligible young ladies, and he was eager to get to know us. One day we had him over for a small gathering. He literally got up and walked out of our house because he was scandalized beyond belief. Why? My younger sister had made the mistake of telling him that she enjoyed the occasional glass of wine. He found it scandalous that genteel women would indulge in alcohol. THAT'S the kind of young man that I will walk over hot coals to protect my daughter from. They are dangerous.