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I get that this is a kinda side point, but if Mel confessed/received last rites right before dying would
that be enough to pray for him/consider it not scandalous to pray for him publically?

Of course.  I was speaking about if he were to die of a sudden heart attack without having shown any public sign of repentance.  Church would refuse Christian burial in that case.  We could still of course pray that God perhaps gave him a sudden grace of repentance, but it's a fine line to walk between realizing that God CAN intervene in a way that's unknown to us and then giving the impression that there's good hope of salvation for someone who dies in public sin.  I think it was St. John Vianney who had the famous case of a ѕυιcιdє where he said that in the moment of time between when the person jumped and when he hit the water, had had time to make a perfect act of contrition.  Mind you, in those situations, the contrition would have to be perfect, and not just motivated by attrition or fear.  God can even suspend time and speak to the interior of the soul, or the entire conversation between God and the soul could happen in a mere instant of time.  AND it's even possible for a departed infidel that God could enlighten the soul in the last moments, and even send an angel to baptize the person.  Nothing is impossible for God, and we all know that.  But I think it's important not to project those types of things that would be a major exception into some sense that there's good hope of salvation.  Otherwise, that could lead to complacency for people to remain in grave sin.  St. Alphonsus said that those types of cases are one in a million.

Of course.  I was speaking about if he were to die of a sudden heart attack without having shown any public sign of repentance.  Church would refuse Christian burial in that case.  We could still of course pray that God perhaps gave him a sudden grace of repentance, but it's a fine line to walk between realizing that God CAN intervene in a way that's unknown to us and then giving the impression that there's good hope of salvation for someone who dies in public sin.  I think it was St. John Vianney who had the famous case of a ѕυιcιdє where he said that in the moment of time between when the person jumped and when he hit the water, had had time to make a perfect act of contrition.  Mind you, in those situations, the contrition would have to be perfect, and not just motivated by attrition or fear.  God can even suspend time and speak to the interior of the soul, or the entire conversation between God and the soul could happen in a mere instant of time.  AND it's even possible for a departed infidel that God could enlighten the soul in the last moments, and even send an angel to baptize the person.  Nothing is impossible for God, and we all know that.  But I think it's important not to project those types of things that would be a major exception into some sense that there's good hope of salvation.  Otherwise, that could lead to complacency for people to remain in grave sin.  St. Alphonsus said that those types of cases are one in a million.

It think it would be decent of you to start another thread for these pontifications and leave this thread for those who want to remember Myrna in peace and prayer. 🙏 

Always pray for the faithful departed, including MyrnaM.

MyrnaM frequently went to Mass and recieved the Sacraments, and she received the Last Rites. We know her by her fruits, which were good here on CathInfo and from testimonies of people who personally knew her. She was a solid Catholic and a holy woman. Of course she's of the Church Triumphant. But even if she's in purgatory, she can still pray for us here. To deny these facts is to deny the Faith.