I am a revert who found and fell in love with the SSPX.  My husband is a TLM-er but less concerned about where he attends.  We just moved from a large city with a SSPX priory to a very rural setting.  We have a 3 year old and 18 month old who were baptized at an SSPX chapel.  We have one on the way.  The closest SSPX chapel is 1.5 hours away and it is a mission chapel that has mass once a month in the early evening.  Between the drive time, mass time, and the age of my kids….we don’t make it there.  We have a larger chapel 2.5 hours away but I’m worried if we join there we won’t attend there often and it will be harder for my kids to be involved with altar serving, sacrament prep, etc.  So, we have been going to a local diocesan TLM.  The diocese is hostile to TLM and I believe this church won’t be allowed to continue with the TLM much longer.  We have not joined this parish either.  

I want the new baby to be baptized by the SSPX preferably.  Do we join the mission 1.5 hours away, only to never attend but maybe support financially, and hopefully have the priest there perform the baptism?  We plan on being part of the mission chapel once our kids are slightly older and can handle the drive/time.  

Or do we join the local diocese church where we have been attending and have the baptism there and then just switch once our kids are older and we are ready to do so?  At least we are known at this church and by the priest.  

Just looking for thoughts if any one else has been in this situation.  Thank you!

How is it you moved but didn’t have this figured out? I have been thinking of relocating my family, and my #1 consideration is proximity to the Mass. there is a family that visits our parish sometimes, they recently moved from out of state and it’s a 2.5 hour drive. 2 young kids and a newborn. So it could be worse

For your kids' sake, avoid the Motarian chapel due to the reasons Shrew Operator implied with her rhetorical questions ... except that ...

Of course, these days you'd have to check on the ordination of the SSPX priests assigned to those chapels also, as some of them could have been ordained NOM and not conditonally ordained.  You might also be fortunate enough to have an (undoubtedly elderly) pre-V2 ordained priest at the Motarian chapel, although there the holy oils may not be legit (although not essential for Baptism).

Given the answers to these, I'd look at possibly assisting at the 1.5-hour chapel once a month, at the 2.5-hour chapel once a month ... and then ... is there an Eastern Rite option close by (other than Maronite).  Try to get a list of pre-V2 ordained priests closer to you at least for the Sacrament of Confession more regularly (most of them are likely retired by now, but there are a few still active out there).

In the meantime, before the children get to the age where they need more than just the Sacrament of Baptism, I'd consider moving back closer to a Traditonal chapel.

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Have your husband read the issues with the new rites of consecration/ordination.  Also have him read +Ottaviani's report on the new mass.  All TLM's are not the same. 

New rite "priests" are doubtfully valid and they say the new mass (or publicly condone it).  This is a moral issue.  He needs to educate himself.  If not, he'll be held accountable.

I've noticed that "social media trads" have this mindset.  They prefer Latin Mass because it's ancient and beautiful and pleasing to God but they do not know that they hold modernists beliefs.  Any attempt to fraternally correct them is met with accusations of being intolerant and judgmental.  

It's akin to the "trad wife" movement covered in another thread.  They want to give the appearance of being a traditional Catholic because it fits their sensibilities and garners a lot of attention online.  

I suspect soon this issue will be moot because SSPX will be the diocese.  And I look forward to it because it will be good to see the truth out in the open.  Catholics of good will may be less confused.

I didn’t realize this forum was so anti-SSPX.  The description at the top says this is for SSPX followers.  I assumed that was a sincere description.  I’ve gone to SSPV and CMRI.  I’ve spoken to their priests.  Choosing the SSPX for me was not an uneducated decision.  I’m not going to argue the whys and what nots here about that decision. 

I wouldn’t call anyone here intolerant and judgmental but it does reaffirm that there is a sect out there that really does not want to authentically help others who are seeking truth…they only want to further the hurt and embarrassment “newbies” might feel after suffering years of being poorly catechized (outside of their control usually subjected on them by Vat2 families and bad parochial schools) and having to navigate their faith without clear direction from trusted leaders/clarity. 

For those who have given me some good solid resources to help my family and I….it is truly appreciated.  May God bless you for your efforts and reward you! 

IMO, it's fine to attend an SSPX chapel. I have a big problem with the leadership of the SSPX and the direction it is going, but I still attend an SSPX chapel when I can make the 3 hour drive, which is difficult in the winter due to snow. The priest at the SSPX chapel that I attend is still good and solid. A lot of SSPX priests are still good, despite the problem with the leadership of the SSPX.

I converted to Catholicism through the SSPX, so I'm grateful to them for that. I received a good catechism from them, but that was before the 2008 and 2012 problems. I also think that if you have no other option, it's okay to attend a diocesan TLM, though many here will disagree. I would rather attend a diocesan TLM than stay home most Sundays and not go to mass at all. True, you won't hear anything about the disastrous V2 council at a diocesan TLM, but if you already know about it, you can just go for the sacraments, and be aware of the problems with a diocesan TLM. The sacraments are very import to me, and I suspect to you too. Ask Our Lord and Our Lady for direction, though you may have already done so.

IMO, it's also good to listen and take into consideration the views of your husband, even if you views conflict with his. 

How is it you moved but didn’t have this figured out? I have been thinking of relocating my family, and my #1 consideration is proximity to the Mass. there is a family that visits our parish sometimes, they recently moved from out of state and it’s a 2.5 hour drive. 2 young kids and a newborn. So it could be worse

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This is an fantastic post and you should not have received a downvote for this. When selecting a place to live, access to Mass and a chapel (preferably with a resident priest) must be the TOP priority. And if people live a distance from Mass, they have to attend as often as they can.

The Mass is the most important thing in the entire world, by far. Nothing else even comes close.