That's interesting, because the Indult mentality has a way of taking over, since it's more "moderate" -- as if that's the correct position because they get along with everybody.
I've seen cases personally where Indult Catholics make up a larger percent of the population, and then there's a sudden concern for "PR" and "what things look like to the Novus Ordo Catholics", etc.
When you have more "staunch" traditionalists, there is little or no concern for being misunderstood, etc. since they are fighting for the truth and they err on the side of zeal.
I know what you're talking about though -- I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall sometimes on FE.
For instance, the modest dress thing. As far as I understand Catholic doctrine, women should wear skirts and dresses, and cover themselves as much as possible, if they really have charity for others' souls. They should want to be ridiculed for the world (so much the better to prove their love for Christ!) if they might save one young man from sin. THAT is Catholic.
I've seen way too many who make fun of modesty (pictures of middle eastern women in burqas, anyone?) and who focus on "fitting in" and not inconveniencing themselves ("it's too hot!"), or not being glamorous enough ("that's so frumpy!") which is what I'd expect at Wal-mart, not among Traditional Catholics.
I could name many other examples, but that one should suffice to demonstrate the "with the world" mentality, which is NOT the mentality we should have.
In Christ,
Matthew