And if you don’t have really good insurance? If there are any complications? If you have all the recommended prenatal exams and tests without which most ob/gyn’s will be sanctioned or cannot practice? Or do you go it alone without medically supervised prenatal care, hope for the best, and if not, run the risk of CPS taking your child? After baby #2 or 3, nobody’s going to believe, “I didn’t know I was pregnant!”
I remember my grandmother telling of paying an illiterate “midwife” to attend the birth of my uncle in 1919. Everyone was dirt poor, so the payment was $5.00 and a supply of home brewed Polish beer that greatgrandpa manufactured in the cellar. Better care was certainly available, but not for poor Polish immigrants to NYC of the 1880s. My grandmother sold her services as a “wetnurse” after the births of my uncle and my mother to women who had no choice but return at once to work or be fired and blacklisted.