Yes, yes--the bitter zeal. That's what I just cannot understand about so many of these guys like "Freedom". They leave no room for disagreement, discussion, opinion and good faith. Disagree with them and immediately they call you a heretic, a simpleton, a liar, a soul in bad faith, etc., and finally this: They condemn you to hell and do it with an almost demonic glee. I know they would disagree with this last part and I can't prove it to be true, but they write in a way that sure sounds as though they are really pleased to see you damned. I wish they would take time off from the polemics and read something spiritual like, maybe, Saint Francis de Sales, and let him teach them about honey and vinegar and flies. If you want somebody to swallow your message you gotta make it taste good, not bitter.
It's worse than that. We're not talking about sugar coating a truth, being polite, being civil, etc.
There's something much more fundamentally wrong with these people than just being "rough", "impolite", "rough around the edges", or "over zealous". We're talking about people swollen with pride, who don't really have the love of God in their souls.
The proof is that when someone is going to Hell, they don't care. You won't catch one of these types offering up a sacrifice (in secret) to convert a sinner -- you know, like the saints did. No, instead you have more of a power trip, an exercise in vainglory and pride, seeing who is right, tons of emotion, etc.
You could talk about the honey & flies thing with regards to pagan relatives addicted to sinful worldly amusements and lifestyles. But that's not what we're talking about here. We're talking about serious Traditional Catholics who are -- according to all evidence and appearances -- making great sacrifices to keep the Faith and live their lives in accordance with God's law.
Such people you shouldn't have to sugarcoat. They SHOULD be considered your co-religionists (those in the same religion), fellow Catholics, allies against the world, and even friends.
In other words, you're granting too much. These demons of bitter zeal are not dealing with a society of pagans who need conversion, but Traditional Catholics. It's like they are in a different religion or something -- and for most intents and purposes, they are! That's why I call such people cultists. If you consider their religion "MHFM cult" then their behavior will make MUCH more sense than if you consider their religion "Roman Catholic" or "Traditional Catholic".