A Christian wife should according to the Gospel obey her husband, even as a Christian husband should love his wife as selflessly as Christ loved His Church.

Therefore, husbands, do you preserve a tender, constant, hearty love for your wives. It was that the wife might be loved heartily and tenderly that woman was taken from the side nearest Adam's heart. No failings or infirmities, bodily or mental, in your wife should ever excite any kind of dislike in you, but rather a loving, tender compassion; and that because God has made her dependent on you, and bound to defer to and obey you; and that while she is meant to be your helpmeet, you are her superior and her head.

And on your part, wives, do you love the husbands God has given you tenderly, heartily, but with a reverential, confiding love, for God has made the man to have the predominance, and to be the stronger; and He wills the woman to depend upon him,--bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh,--taking her from out the ribs of the man, to show that she must be subject to his guidance. All Holy Scripture enjoins this subjection, which nevertheless is not grievous; and the same Holy Scripture, while it bids you accept it lovingly, bids your husband to use his superiority with great tenderness, lovingkindness, and gentleness. "Husbands, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel."

I must say, it's nice to hear something positive about the phlegmatic soul. Of the four temperments I hear the least about this one for some reason. Usually at the end of those temperment tests, the other 3 temperment descriptions have a big long explanation and list of famous people and saints. But then you get to the phlegmatic section and find a small paragraph. Kind of frustrating for the person who is phlegmatic! Haha.

But what you say, in general, is true, spouse of jesus. I'm phlegmatic and I have never struggled with being obedient. I have, however, struggled quite a bit with being passive to the point of my detriment in regards to people easily taking advantage of my disposition, not expressing my concerns, etc. I don't have much of a backbone, in other words, it seems.Each temperment comes with a lot of good, but also many obstacles for sure!