Author Topic: Maternal Love (Read 8554 times)

IvanMincu · « **on:** July 13, 2012, 01:25:32 AM »

Do any of you men feel that you miss out on the maternal love?

I do. I do not think my mother raise me right. She love me and all, but i do not think she love me as much as she could have.

I am grown man. I have skill. But I am lonely. Not for romatic love. I am not interested in that. I am single, but I like to keep it that way.

But I am lonely for maternal love.

Any of you guys like me?

I think lot of men missed out on having loving mother because the mother all going to work all day and ttired and do not have time for the maternal affections.mothers unlike men have what
are called sebaceous glands. it make them squishier then men. studies have shown that babies gravitate to female because they are softer, and do not have sandpaper skin like mens do.

ps. Sorry english not my first language obviouslies! :cheers:

Elizabeth · « **Reply #1 on:** July 13, 2012, 01:38:44 PM »

Hi Ivan,

There are many men and women who were cut off from their Moms because of Mom's work.

I know a number of teens who have been raised like house cats with not very much maternal care.

May Our Blessed Mother take us under her holy mantle of motherly love.

theology101 · « **Reply #2 on:** July 15, 2012, 12:55:10 PM »

Not me my mom was single a few times and worked alot but she loved us and hung out with us all the rest of the time, made many sacrifices for us. Plus she breastfed me for like two years and ive heard longer feeding forms stronger bond between mother and child.

She passed to soon in 2009 and I still miss her more than I can bear.

songbird · « **Reply #3 on:** July 15, 2012, 04:08:04 PM »

That is where God comes in. No matter what the circuмstance in life, His Love is always there! The sacraments are there for the taking and the graces are there if the sacraments are not. We have spiritual communion, the rosary is consoling, praying for those in purgatory and those in purgatory and heaven pray for us here on earth, a consoling dogma of faith. Sometimes we have something to learn that leads us to perceive things in a truer. Our Lady is always our mother. The parents that we have, God gives to us on loan, for this earth. Parents who lose children know that their children are on loan. We all belong to God and we pray for that.

MrsZ · « **Reply #4 on:** July 15, 2012, 08:29:55 PM »

Excuse me, but that picture in the original post is hideous!

As far as your question: we're all lacking in some way. No one can fulfill all our needs, no matter how well intentioned. Many of us have had horrendous childhoods, filled with anger, depression, drugs, no belief in God .... and yet God in His Infinite Mercy, called us and brought us to Him ...

HE is the only answer for what ails us.

Marcelino · « **Reply #5 on:** July 15, 2012, 09:37:07 PM »

Reminds me of "The Courtship of Eddie's Father." There's all these movies that center around the theme of lonely boys. The horror movies, "Ben" and "Willard" are like that. In Ben's case, his father is dead and his mother works. So, he befriends a super intelligent rat, who ends up being something like Dr. Frankenstein's monster. I guess the moral of that story is, when you're lonely, be extra careful who your friends are. Don't be a "desperate dan!"

Lighthouse · « **Reply #6 on:** July 15, 2012, 10:05:53 PM »

MrsZ:

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Excuse me, but that picture in the original post is hideous!

I'm not sure that "hideous" does it justice. I would rank it up there with the most bizarre things I have ever seen.

And just for the record, both sexes have "sebaceous glands".

IvanMincu · « **Reply #7 on:** July 19, 2012, 01:59:44 AM »

hideous? bizarre? i been told i handsome.

some good comment here i will have to think about!

it is true both have sebaceous gland but it been known throughout the histories that women are squishier than men. babies like them more.

Lybus · « **Reply #8 on:** July 19, 2012, 04:54:13 AM »

Dr. Conrad Baars and Dr. Anna Terruwe talk about this kind of stuff, about the lack of emotional love that is growing rampant in places such as the United States. They call it Emotional Deprivation Disorder in which a person does not receive unconditional love in their childhood (for whatever reason, not always being the parents' fault) and thus have stunted emotional maturity. It greatly contributes to the extreme selfishness of the modern era as people are trying to fill in the void with external remedies.

By the way there is nothing wrong with the man's head per se, it's just a bit too much to see it attached to the head of a baby, lol.

IvanMincu · « **Reply #9 on:** July 20, 2012, 08:04:37 AM »

Hey this is it! Emotional Deprivation Disorder Thank you!

lot of lady say that these miss out on maternal loves too. I don't think it bad for these lady as it is for mens. I feel like sometime there a whole in my heart. It is sad. But what can I do?

hopefully the lady's reading this will be cognizant, and make sure they give their chidrens all the love they need.

MrsZ · « **Reply #10 on:** July 20, 2012, 11:07:07 AM »

It's not the face of the man per se, it's the face of the man on a baby's body. It's freakish and offensive.

Marcelino · « **Reply #11 on:** July 20, 2012, 09:48:05 PM »

I don't know, the face didn't offend me at all. Basically, it said to me: an adult man, longing for a mother's love, which he didn't get as a child. Modern art isn't supposed to make sense. That picture made sense and seemed to fit with the thread topic. So, I wouldn't call it modern art.

I don't know why anybody would be offended by it, but maybe it is a guilty conscience or maybe they just hate men. Envy? I don't know. Maybe the attack on the picture is just an indirect/"subconscious" attack on a male seeking sympathy in a culture that rejects that, because it has decided men are the root of all evil in the world. If it wasn't the picture, maybe it would have just been something else.

Roman55 · « **Reply #12 on:** July 20, 2012, 11:02:39 PM »

Quote from: IvanMincu

Hey this is it! Emotional Deprivation Disorder Thank you!

lot of lady say that these miss out on maternal loves too. I don't think it bad for these lady as it is for mens. I feel like sometime there a whole in my heart. It is sad. But what can I do?

hopefully the lady's reading this will be cognizant, and make sure they give their chidrens all the love they need.

I can't place the title right now, but +Bishop Williamson gave an excellent talk one afternoon on LOVE. In part, he went on to say parents can actually 'love their children to death'....that is, through interference, too much attention, thinking for them, (making their choices), watching every move they make and preventing any harm to come to them, yet utterly failing when the child needs them most.
If I find the title, I'll post it here. Great insights on parenting and loving.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #13 on:** July 21, 2012, 02:23:45 AM »

"yet utterly failing when the child needs them most. "

Blind spots exist because of a parent's lack of objectivity caused by pride and fear.

Elizabeth · « **Reply #14 on:** July 21, 2012, 12:59:52 PM »

Quote from: MrsZ

It's not the face of the man per se, it's the face of the man on a baby's body. It's freakish and offensive.

It reminds me of the illustrations in Alice in Wonderlandand they creeped me out when I was little, so much that I couldn't stand to read the book. I agree, the photo is jarring.