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Quote from: Augustine

also Fr. Jason Huvar left the priesthood, married and joined the military; going to Afghanistan.

Jason Huvar is apparently stationed at Fort Hood, Texas now.

This link includes a picture of him in 2014 (validating that this is definitely the same Jason Huvar) story with picture.

This link describes his wife and how they met at Mass. Interesting. story with wife

My husband was deeply disturbed by this when it happened and he prays often for Fr Huvar.  

Joking about where they met? Yikes. Leaves a pit in your stomach. Mass is actually a great place to meet men, as long as you can keep away from the married or ordained types. :/

FORT HOOD – A 230-mile road trip may not be a challenge for most, but it was for Michelle Huvar.
She is bound to a wheelchair by myasthenia gravis, rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia, but she wanted to be at Fort Hood for her husband when he returned from a 15-month deployment to Iraq.
Sgt. Jason Huvar returned Wednesday morning with about 190 other soldiers from the 36th Engineer Brigade's 937th Engineer Company, 8th Engineer Battalion.
"I just didn't want him to be here with nobody," Michelle said before the soldiers arrived at the ceremony at Cameron Field.
Jason didn't know his wife was waiting for him.
"He's definitely going to flip," she added later.
Myasthenia gravis is an autoimmune disorder that causes muscles to tire and weaken easily, according to www.webmd.com. Michelle takes medication every four hours just so she can breathe. Fibromyalgia causes widespread muscle pain, fatigue and tenderness, according to the American College of Rheumatology.
Michelle is homebound and rested up for the trip to Fort Hood, which she made in two stages. She told Jason she'd meet him at his brother's house – halfway between Fort Hood and Clear Lake, a suburb of Houston. She then made the second stage of the trip so she could see Jason walk across the parade field. Michelle couldn't stand the thought of him not having someone to hug upon his return.
This is Jason's first deployment and the longest he and his wife have spent apart in three years of marriage. Michelle wanted her husband to know that she loved him and was proud of him.
"He just deserves so much," she said.
She planned a romantic homecoming for Jason, which included rose petals and champagne. The two met at Mass, and Michelle joked Wednesday that it was the best place to meet men. They were friends for a long time because they were too shy to confess their love for one another, Michelle said.
She will celebrate her birthday on Saturday, and he will celebrate his on July 16.

I bet they were friends when he was still a priest -- such imprudent friendship(s) probably led to his decision to give up the priesthood. Knowing human nature, that would be my guess.

Just like many divorces are born after ONE of the disaffected spouses (whose marriage has become ho-hum or even dead) finds ANOTHER to move on to. This becomes the motivation or catalyst to "put a fork in" (wrap up, end) the first marriage.

Without that concrete person to move on to, the status quo would probably be maintained much longer.

For that matter, few people leave the house one day and say, "I'm going to find someone to commit adultery with." No, they start out BECOMING FRIENDS -- IMPRUDENTLY -- WITH A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. After a flame is kindled (which is easy, given human nature and the way God made men and women) the decision is later made to commit adultery/get a divorce/etc.

Moral of the story: keep a guard around your heart -- so-called innocent friendships can be very dangerous if they're not proper. A man shouldn't be "friends" with any women that aren't his wife. Acquaintances or co-workers maybe -- but he must always keep a professional detachment or distance between him and any women. (Likewise for women of course).

Quote from: Augustine

also Fr. Jason Huvar left the priesthood, married and joined the military; going to Afghanistan.

Jason Huvar is apparently stationed at Fort Hood, Texas now.

This link includes a picture of him in 2014 (validating that this is definitely the same Jason Huvar) story with picture.

This link describes his wife and how they met at Mass. Interesting. story with wife

He'll always be Father Huvar to me.  She will always be a (expletive) who left her husband and went after this priest without shame or remorse for what she did.  

Quote from: compline

Quote from: Augustine

also Fr. Jason Huvar left the priesthood, married and joined the military; going to Afghanistan.

Jason Huvar is apparently stationed at Fort Hood, Texas now.

This link includes a picture of him in 2014 (validating that this is definitely the same Jason Huvar) story with picture.

This link describes his wife and how they met at Mass. Interesting. story with wife

He'll always be Father Huvar to me.  She will always be a (expletive) who left her husband and went after this priest without shame or remorse for what she did.  

I definitely recognize him -- he must have come to one or more Priest Meetings in Winona, MN while I was there.

I doubt she wooed him in her current state. "Myasthenia gravis is an autoimmune disorder that causes muscles to tire and weaken easily, according to www.webmd.com. Michelle takes medication every four hours just so she can breathe. Fibromyalgia causes widespread muscle pain, fatigue and tenderness."

They got married in 2006, and this article was written in 2009. So in just 3 years, her health was reduced to that degree? Wow.

Academic question: If lots of people offered prayers and Masses for Fr. Huvar, including some people close to God, what would an answer to prayer look like? HINT: God doesn't generally interfere with the normal forward flow of time, nor does He annihilate things/persons, etc.

It looks like Fr. Huvar got 15 months away from "distractions" to think about his situation. I'd say someone is praying for him. An encouraging sign to keep praying...you never know! "Dum spiro, spero" Where there's breath, there's hope.

That's why the now-seen-as-archaic safeguards society used to maintain are so important. We don't have to seek out temptation to be vulnerable, the devil will bring it right to our doors any chance he gets.

That's why society's opinion of a given situation, defined as what is "proper" or "appropriate" was one of those safeguards. If polite society looks down on something, there is usually a reason for it.

And yes, you have to have your guard up from the beginning, and never let it down. Once you've discovered someone you really get along with and "like" on a human level, it's often too late. Even despite yourself, you would find yourself looking forward to each potential chance to see that person, etc. and basically nature would take its course. At that point, you'd have to do something drastic to cut things off completely (I'm talking about any inappropriate friendship -- any relationship that shouldn't be).

Infatuation does kind of "happen" -- it's not a rational thing.

For that matter, few people leave the house one day and say, "I'm going to find someone to commit adultery with." No, they start out BECOMING FRIENDS -- IMPRUDENTLY -- WITH A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. After a flame is kindled (which is easy, given human nature and the way God made men and women) the decision is later made to commit adultery/get a divorce/etc.

Moral of the story: keep a guard around your heart -- so-called innocent friendships can be very dangerous if they're not proper. A man shouldn't be "friends" with any women that aren't his wife. Acquaintances or co-workers maybe -- but he must always keep a professional detachment or distance between him and any women. (Likewise for women of course).

Agreed. Even when I was young and bought every modernist lie the media was telling me, I still knew that friendships between men and women were ultimately fake and that in almost every case at least one party was partially attracted to the other. I noticed this even as a kid. Statistics show that something like half of women actually have "backup men" to go to if their current relationship goes sour(I bet this statistic is much more severe if you discount religious women). These are no doubt people they insist are "just friends" and that they lead on. That same statistic also shows that men are happily willing to pretend to not be attracted to female friends so they can stay in the background waiting to jump in whenever she breaks up. It's an insane scenario, but it's very real and very common. Most people who insist male-female frienships can exist where neither party are at all attracted or tempted are either kidding themselves or have something to hide. 

You can remain polite acquaintances but married people should absolutely not have friendships with members of the opposite sex. It can only lead to trouble.