There was no reason to say that "there are probably a lot of things that I don't know about" and to jump to the conclusion that I was inferring there was any type of ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ actions at the Mass. Also, the "are you serious" comment was totally uncalled for.
1. You've been registered on CathInfo for a year. On a forum going back to 2006, that's a newbie. I don't know you at all. I get trolls here all the time.
2. You called it "hugging". I've been on CathInfo a long time (14+ years), and no one else has ever referred that way to the Kiss of Peace -- despite the fact that most Trads don't have access to a Solemn High Mass. Maybe they all used Google, books, etc. to fill in those gaps of personal experience?
3. For me, the "are you serious?" was the nice version. My first thought was that you were a troll who needed a prompt banning from the forum. Heaven knows I get enough of those on a regular basis. Glad to hear that's not the case here. I thought there was a chance you weren't a troll, which is why I gave you the benefit of the doubt.
4. You need to re-read my posts.
I brought up the word "ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ" to refer to a VERY COMMON phenomenon among young, unmarried Trad men. When asked, "Have you tested out a vocation at the Seminary?" The conversation always goes something like this:"No, I'm called to marriage."
"Really? Has God sent you a good woman to marry?"
"No, I'm almost 30, but no, still single. I know I'm called to marriage because
I find myself attracted to women."
...How would you interpret that last statement? If being attracted to women means you're called to marriage, wouldn't that necessarily mean that all the priests and bishops are NOT attracted to women? And so what would that make them? AsɛҳuąƖ at best, but more likely ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. And that's obviously rubbish -- which is my point.
Many young men haven't stopped and thought that through. ESPECIALLY those young men who decide early on they want to get married -- and then wait 20+ years to find a suitable spouse, still single at 40, but never questioning their initial decision that "marriage is what God created me for".
You didn't answer my question though. You've been "Trad for 30 years" -- so you're 30 then? Why didn't you ever spend time at a Seminary? You could have learned about the Kiss of Peace as well as
many other things.
Most young men (myself included) weren't exactly changing the world in their early 20's -- the world won't miss them for a year or 4 while they get a good foundation in the Faith and the spiritual life to set them up for life. I would worry about the discipline, maturity, and spiritual life of any man who hasn't been willing to give a year or two of his life to discerning a vocation, "just in case".
Those in the seminary didn't receive a voice from God that they should be a priest. Most of them go *to make sure they DON'T have a vocation to the priesthood.