The nature of the Crisis is that we're all subject to flux almost no matter where we end up: bad priests, bad teaching, bad communities, etc. Some get dealt a really bad hand, maybe a few bad hands in a row and sometimes they might be tempted to abandon ship prematurely due to their past experiences. When they have kids to worry about, the trigger finger is even more sensitive. Mistakes will be made, but I think the real concern is whether there is a healthy reaction to failure or not. No one could have predicted how ridiculous the Kentucky crew would become, that had to be manifested first. Yet, how many times did fatal compliance masquerade as Christian forgiveness?
Just because ggreg hasn't found his boiling point with any of his frequented chapels, it is not to say that he won't ever be called upon to make the hard decision. Sometimes it's good to stay and fight, other times it's best to leave, but you can't paint with such a broad brush that you dismiss every option that merely makes people feel uncomfortable. I get the distinct impression from ggreg that signs of too much struggle or conflict indicates a bad decision has been made. It really depends on the spirit you base it on. If you are struggling merely because you're a stubborn, combative or irresponsible person and you can't stand people who disagree with you because you hate to lose face or money or some other worldly thing, yeah well that's not good. If you are struggling because you are genuinely trying to do right by the Faith, by God, by His Church and along the way you offend your friends, your family, your coworkers, or even your co-religious as it may be, and provided you are objectively right, you are doing exactly what you should be doing as a Catholic.
Some of us feel the sign of contradiction more than others, though not all are called endure the same trials. You gotta give people a certain amount of space to do what needs to be done. It won't play out the same way for everyone, but we can learn from each other's trials and tribulations as well as our successes. But don't look down on folks because they're running just to stand still. Anticipate it happening to you at some point in time.