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Offline Alexandria

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Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
« Reply #60 on: August 07, 2019, 03:41:21 PM »
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  • When Fr. Beck was the rector in Saint Marys, he gave a sermon about modesty.
    He said, "It's not my job to enforce modesty."
    There you go women, no enforcement
    in the chapel, wear what you want.
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    Fr Beck later said, "It's an internal thing that the women will have to adopt, then
    automatically it will show up in the way they dress."  And I guess if they don't get it
    internally, then too bad.
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    That pretty much sums up the attitude in Saint Marys.  Fr Rutledge is no better.  
    Modesty will never be enforced in Saint Marys (IMHO).  And I've been watching
    it get worse for 20 years.
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    That's a cowardly excuse.  He's a priest.  Isn't his job about souls?

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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #61 on: August 07, 2019, 04:02:34 PM »
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  • All I can say is it's pretty bad when someone from Our Lady of Sorrows in Phoenix is pointing out the flaws of the SSPX epicenter of the USA, St. Mary's.  I mean, we are normally the ones with the bad image, right?  I feel a wee bit jealous of all the attention me post is getting!!!  


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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #62 on: August 07, 2019, 06:01:14 PM »
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  • Yeah, this is a big issue. I don't know about the US, but in many countries like my own, parishes were very important and definitely communities. They formed a strong part of a person's identity, and the people you saw at mass were the same people you know from your school, club, neighbourhood, etc. So you knew most people there very well and you'd be careful not to do anything that could embarrass you or have bad word spread around about you, so there was a big social pressure for modesty and looking respectable at mass. But now for many Trads you'll often go to mass an hour from where you live or work and you might have absolutely nothing to do with the other families besides some church activities, and since most Trads live in places that are majority non-Catholic or at least non-Trad you won't be seeing your neighbours or co-workers at mass. So there's much less social pressure to conform.
    You have a good point.  When Mass is said sporadically by different priests at different locations, and people drive long distances because they lack a Catholic community and a stationary structure, enforcing dress standards is nearly impossible and is low on the priest’s list of priorities.  A suggestion in case someone comes dressed in an extremely immodest manner, is for the host family to bring some veils, neutral colored shawls, and a couple of suit jackets.  Choose a man and a woman with excellent people skills to approach the immodest dresser.  It has to be done with grace and discretion or not at all.  If the offer is refused, then it’s up to the priest to either allow the person to stay or to lay down the law.  I think the latter should only be done in very extreme cases where ill-will is obvious or children will be corrupted.  If handled improperly, it may result in the loss of a weak soul.  
    One time I was at a Mass in a hotel meeting room and an employee of the hotel desired to attend Mass.  Thankfully, he first approached the priest who is a person who has the gift of being able to talk to anyone, to see through outward trappings.  Fr. ushered the man inside, seated him up front near the door, and introduced him by name to a few couples seated nearby.  He arranged for a man to help him out with a Missal, then went to vest for Mass.  The young man had a mullet hairstyle, a dangling earring, and tattoos creeping up the sides of his neck and onto the backs of his hands.  I could see an elderly couple in the back whispering and giving him daggers with their eyes.  After Mass, Fr. spent considerable time with the man off to the side.  Did he convert?  I don’t know, but there would have been scant chance of it had the old couple vented their outrage upon him.  

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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #63 on: August 08, 2019, 09:04:05 AM »
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  • Doesn't look like Fr. Angelo to me. So what FSSP Van der Putten priest is that?
    Still waiting for your answer, Mmmm.

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    « Reply #64 on: August 08, 2019, 09:23:26 AM »
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    You have a good point.  When Mass is said sporadically by different priests at different locations, and people drive long distances because they lack a Catholic community and a stationary structure, enforcing dress standards is nearly impossible and is low on the priest’s list of priorities.  A suggestion in case someone comes dressed in an extremely immodest manner, is for the host family to bring some veils, neutral colored shawls, and a couple of suit jackets.  Choose a man and a woman with excellent people skills to approach the immodest dresser.  It has to be done with grace and discretion or not at all.  If the offer is refused, then it’s up to the priest to either allow the person to stay or to lay down the law.  I think the latter should only be done in very extreme cases where ill-will is obvious or children will be corrupted.  If handled improperly, it may result in the loss of a weak soul. 
    Your suggestions are fantastic for a new-comer to a Trad chapel, but we're talking about "Catholics" who attend on a weekly basis but don't dress like Catholics.


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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #65 on: August 08, 2019, 02:01:32 PM »
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  • This discussion -- and the struggle we are having with this very issue in my parish -- is one of many reasons why I wish Rome would formally "recognize" and distinguish two different Catholic rites, such as she recognizes now other different Catholic rites. Simply calling it the Ordinary (and how) Form and the Extraordinary Form is not distinct enough.  A really visionary Pope would write some kind of papal docuмent to be published in parish bulletins, explaining that both communities or movements are in communion with Rome.  First, that would actually pave the way for more oversight of the N.O. abuses, by standardizing all of it within the GIRM.  (Most N.O. parishes are cavalier about following the basic requirements of the GIRM.)  As the See is now the Seat of the N.O. cult, the See could standardize the N.O. within universal norms, including formulaic prayers, rubrics, etc.  Of course, that will not happen under the current titular head, since Francis is quite a fan of the casual and the multicultural, pandering to both.  So, doubtful it would happen while he's in charge, but it would be a clever way of a subsequent leader to work toward universal (eventually traditional) compliance and universality.  Since the traditional Mass is the universal form, permanently, going "through" the N.O. first would be a way to prepare the Church populace for that. Nothing will ever happen while the hierarchy is afraid of its own authority and operates out of Human Respect.  We're going to continue to live with disobedience and pride in the ranks until a true, brave General takes over.

    Following within this argument, the trads being in the minority and in effective charge of their own "troops" when it comes to liturgical form (not needing standardization from Rome), the same papal docuмent would announce the need to respect the two different rites in total, meaning that overall standards of behavior and other expectations (such as rubrics) are proper to the two distinct rites:  a Catholic visiting the other rite should expect to conform to the minimum standards of that rite and would be subject to them.  While seeming to validate the N.O. as a legitimate rite, such a clever pope would actually be preparing the Church to reestablish the Traditional Mass as the only recognized valid and licit rite.  I think this is actually possible within our lifetimes.

    It's not off-topic because such a move would have the sanction of Rome to permit trad groups to enforce standards of dress and behavior for all attending their rites and related events.  

    Now let's move to the laments in this thread over trad priests not asserting their own authority enough in their own locations and occasions.  I do agree; it bothers me, too.  Overall, their orientation is to bring souls to, not keep new souls away; thus, their concern is that if they preach persistently about sloppy and immodest dress (men and women), and sloppy behavior (visitors from the N.O. swinging their arms to and from HC, or putting hands in pockets, coming to the HC rail "for a blessing," on and on), such pronouncements will discourage newcomers.  

    I don't think trad priests are considering the effect of merely one remark from the pulpit at the beginning of every low or high Mass -- a general remark, intended for all to hear.  Sentence One:  conformity to dress standards are published in the back of the church.  Sentence Two:  expect that others, with my advance approval, may approach you if you are observed to be inappropriately dressed.  This could be the initial, formulaic reminder, just before or just after the announcements are read (for us, those announcements are very brief; they are not everything printed, just what the priest may want to emphasize orally and they take 30-60 seconds to say).  Then the priest can go into his homily/sermon.

    Where I think our trad priests are very wrong is the degree and permanence of the effect of such speech.  It's not going to keep sincere seekers away; it will only keep the disobedient, prideful, obstinate visitors from returning -- people attached to their own will and people not interested in conforming to the demands of those in authority.  

    Back to my first paragraph:  Yes, yes, a pope truly in command would not necessarily consider "paving the way" for the exclusive acceptance of the TLM, but announce himself unapologetically.  However, just consider the chaos that an unprepared pronouncement would invite:  politically, it would be more problematic, probably, than an interim step would be.  I'm not talking, of course, about laypeople, or even about priests, but about the horde of modernist bishops and cardinals.  There are certainly other ways of going about the return to universal dominance of the TLM, but something shocking and sudden will be far more difficult to manage, politically and administratively. Clergy on all levels remain irrationally "afraid" of the TLM.  That's why you see all these fake hybrids of the N.O. and the TLM in so many parishes:  

    The N.O. ad orientem
    The N.O. with various Latin substitutes peppered within it
    The N.O. with communion rails
    A weird hybrid of both:  Latin Gregorian Propers, chanted, + vernacular Ordinary sung + English recessional hymn

    The only reason for these tiptoes is fear.  So a pragmatic pope will probably consider the fear factor if he wants to move the Church definitively back to Tradition even liturgically, let alone fully -- doctrinally and in spirituality.

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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #66 on: August 08, 2019, 02:12:04 PM »
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    A really visionary Pope would write some kind of papal docuмent to be published in parish bulletins, explaining that both communities or movements are in communion with Rome.  First, that would actually pave the way for more oversight of the N.O. abuses, by standardizing all of it within the GIRM.
    How can a rite which has over 5 different canons, and multiple rubric options be standardized?  It's impossible.  The novus ordo was designed to be without standards, without norms, without structure so that the unity of catholic worship worldwide would be destroyed.  It was designed to be in constant flux, with constant revisions and updates, (wait until there are new rubrics for ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ prayers and transgender rituals), until the modernists/communists get what they want - a total destruction of the catholic mass, even down to the tiniest remembrance of it.  Until you realize this, and until you realize that the novus ordo must be abolished completely for the True Faith to return, you are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #67 on: August 08, 2019, 02:34:26 PM »
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  • I realize it.  You're preaching to the choir, not the uninitiated, so you didn't understand my reply at all.  I'm talking about political pragmatics, not about the reality of the how the N.O. does not conform to the Traditional (largely abandoned) foundation of the Roman Church.

    A Pope has the legitimate, technical authority to announce the restoration of Tradition, comprehensively.  However, many men in such a position, in the current political environment, will hesitate to exercise that full authority as immediately as we all wish they would.


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    « Reply #68 on: August 08, 2019, 03:16:07 PM »
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    I'm talking about political pragmatics,
    I get your point, but there's no such thing as being pragmatic in matters of salvation.  If you go to confession and confess you're an alcoholic, the priest does not tell you to try to only get drunk 3 times a week, and then try for 2.  The priest should tell you to join AA and pray for spiritual strength as only God can truly help you get better, through humility.
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    In the same way, the novus ordo shouldn't be gradually phased out, but stopped cold turkey because the end (getting rid of the novus ordo) does not justify the means (only having the novus ordo sometimes).  The novus ordo is an abomination and a moral crisis of Faith for those that attend.  You can't offend God in the attempt to please/teach people.

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    « Reply #69 on: August 08, 2019, 03:35:25 PM »
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  • That's your opinion as to the means and methods that could be used or should be used.  I, too, have a similar ideal, but working within the Vatican may alter one's perspective, given how brutally lovers of tradition have been treated in the modern era.

    I have a better idea:  The addiction to modernism and heterodoxy being closely related to the sins of the flesh being practiced within the Vatican, how about a new pope concentrating on definitively and immediately purging the sodomites from the See, so that those not spiritually and intellectually blinded by their own grave sin, those more inclined to follow an orthodox pope, will be in a position to help lead a restoration. 

    No restoration is going to happen while sodomy maintains a stranglehold on Rome, regardless of how suddenly the N.O. is subjugated and eliminated.  The two are very much symbiotic. 

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    « Reply #70 on: August 08, 2019, 03:57:07 PM »
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    That's your opinion as to the means and methods that could be used or should be used.
    It's not an opinion, it's an application of moral principles.  The novus ordo is a sacrilege, which is an offense against God of the highest degree.  The offense against God must be stopped immediately; the concern over how to educate the faithful is of way lower priority.
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    As an example.  If you had the chance to stop abortion immediately, would you do it?  Or would you gradually "phase it out" as long as it took people to realize it was wrong?  Of course, you'd stop it immediately because it's a heinous act and the fact that people don't realize this is secondary to saving the lives of millions of infants.
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    The novus ordo is INFINITELY worse than abortion because the novus ordo is a mockery of the most pure and holy prayer on earth - the Mass.  Abortion is a desecration of God's creatures.  The novus ordo is a desecration of God Himself.


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    Re: ST. MARY'S MODESTY
    « Reply #71 on: August 08, 2019, 04:13:14 PM »
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  • Your recommendation as to the methods of enforcing the unwavering moral principles does not carry any weight as a layperson.  It sounds logical to you, and would also be preferred by me and probably all other trads, true, but whether what you want accomplished can be attained as rapidly as you assume (and without actually lengthening the process by producing chaos in the interim) is not something you or I are in a position to decide.  

    Again, I think a lot more cowardice is being shown in the Vatican about tolerance for One of the Four Sins than about anything else.   Since the person in charge tolerates sodomy in his home, so to speak, surely the N.O. is going to continue to be tolerated with even less alarm.

    And without addressing the rest of Conciliarism (in addition to the Mass itself), merely extinguishing the N.O. still leaves mountains of doctrinal needs within the Church.

    Reinstate the Index
    Put the Council on the Index
    As part of that decision, forbid the N.O. and restore the TLM to exclusive use, including in mission territories.

    And those ^ would only be the beginning.  Next would be:

    Restoring traditional catechesis, which would mean....
    Putting modernist catechisms on the Index, as well as modernist pedagogy

    Etc. Etc.

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    « Reply #72 on: August 08, 2019, 06:07:32 PM »
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    but whether what you want accomplished can be attained as rapidly as you assume (and without actually lengthening the process by producing chaos in the interim) is not something you or I are in a position to decide. 
    I think that our goals are totally different.  My goal is to stop the great sacrilege of the new mass from ever being said again, because it is one of the greatest sins to have ever been committed.  I would not measure success by the number of people who agreed with me, but only by the swiftness and completeness of getting rid of the new liturgy.  If I were the pope and I ordered that each and every person who said or attended the new mass was excommunicated immediately, even if this meant that 99% of catholics disagreed with me, and even if the outcome was that 99% of catholics left the Church and stayed with their new mass (which would mean they became schismatics), I would consider my papacy a complete success.  The consideration of who or how many followed my lead is very much secondary to the primary goal of honoring God and halting that which offends Him.  Only 3 people on all the earth were with Christ when He fulfilled His Father's will on the cross.  The Church's success does not depend on quantity of people but on quality of sanctity.

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    « Reply #73 on: August 09, 2019, 11:45:12 AM »
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  • I think that our goals are totally different.  My goal is to stop the great sacrilege of the new mass from ever being said again, because it is one of the greatest sins to have ever been committed.  I would not measure success by the number of people who agreed with me, but only by the swiftness and completeness of getting rid of the new liturgy.  If I were the pope and I ordered that each and every person who said or attended the new mass was excommunicated immediately, even if this meant that 99% of catholics disagreed with me, and even if the outcome was that 99% of catholics left the Church and stayed with their new mass (which would mean they became schismatics), I would consider my papacy a complete success.  The consideration of who or how many followed my lead is very much secondary to the primary goal of honoring God and halting that which offends Him.  Only 3 people on all the earth were with Christ when He fulfilled His Father's will on the cross.  The Church's success does not depend on quantity of people but on quality of sanctity.
    I agree with Pax Vobis. We live in turbulent times. My opinion is that the approach with NO people should be quiet similar to that of the Saints during the Reformation in order to bring the flock back to the true Pastor.

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    « Reply #74 on: August 09, 2019, 03:28:47 PM »
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  • The Church's success does not depend on quantity of people but on quality of sanctity.
    Absolutely nothing in my posts on this thread or any other thread have anything to do with "quantity of people."  I simply know what the Church knows, which is that Tradition is three things, not one:

    The Liturgy
    The Faith (doctrine)
    Traditional Spirituality

    This is important to the very topic on the thread.  Why do visitors from the N.O. not comply with standards of dress (men and women) when attending trad Masses?  Because they've been brainwashed by the World, which is to mean the World as represented and promoted in the N.O. -- not just the N.O. Mass, but the N.O. mentality about everything.  It's about being formed by the World, catechetically (or the absence thereof), a disregard for authority, the belief in "equality," the contempt for standards and for form, and a spirit of rebellion and disobedience.  They're attached to their own will because Conciliarism affirms and promotes that self-will.

    The submission of the laity needs to be specifically taught, and not just by attending the TLM now and then and enjoying the Smells and Bells superficially.  We have the proof in our own parish, as I mentioned earlier.  There's a qualitative and radical difference between those who have truly integrated Tradition within their lives; those are the people who would not question a dress code and who do willingly comply with it.

    Tradition is not just a fad or event (not that you think so; I'm saying that visitors often assume that the only thing different about Tradition is the Mass itself; that is false). Tradition is an entirely different orientation to Catholicism, requiring conversion to the three essentials of Tradition, and until all attendees at a TLM understand that, we will all continue to have problems with people's appearance at Mass.  It shows you how deeply society's pathetic expectations of modern behavior have infiltrated into every institution -- religious, educational, governmental, media, etc.