About 4 years ago when I was going to the Phoenix chapel, I found out that the "donut guy" was also the parish snitch. He would walk around and eavesdrop on everyone's conversations after Mass and then would immediately run over to the rectory and give a full report on all the "disscenters". When this happened, your name made it to the parish "naughty list" and the core people there would no longer say hi to you and their kids wouldn't play with your kids.
Between this and other nαzι like tactics going on there, I pulled all my kids out of the school and moved immediately.
What you describe is A) not Catholic B) toxic, and C) enough reason to avoid such chapels -- even if you have no other options for Mass. And I take missing Sunday Mass very seriously.
HOW is that a good way to raise your kids Catholic? To teach them that priests are nαzι-esque dictators, petty tyrants, etc.? Is that a way to foster a love for Christ's priesthood?
And how do you teach them to volunteer and give themselves to the Church's service, when all the "core/volunteer" types act like a clique, and immediately shun you when you speak or stand up for the truth? That was one reason I gave up on my SSPX chapel. My wife and I strongly believe in being active members of the parish -- staying after, talking with new people, helping out, volunteering. We were both personally fired from our volunteer positions NOT BY THE PRIEST, FR. ZIGRANG, but by his boss (at the time), Fr. Rostand. Why? Of course because I run CathInfo. Apparently 8 members of the parish wrote a letter to Fr. Rostand, complaining that I was in the choir and my wife was the treasurer, even though we support the Resistance and run CathInfo. You know, "thoughtcrimes" -- things that shouldn't be crimes in any decent society, outside of dystopian, fictional nightmares like the world in Orwell's
Nineteen Eighty-Four.
Oh, and a sidenote -- to this day, I don't know who those 8 people are. A very connected lady at the parish (knows everyone, keeps an ear everywhere) told me she did see the letter, and that those 8 people do exist. But
all 8 of them are lousy cowards who didn't say the FIRST WORD to my face -- they just went right over me, right over Fr. Zigrang (who -- to be fair -- wasn't in the mood to play nαzι commandant, even though such was certainly
in vogue in the SSPX at the time), straight to the District Superior of the USA. If there were any "males" among them, I'm here to tell you there were NO MEN. Men don't sneak around behind your back, smiling at you while secretly writing letters to far-away superiors. What disgusting, sniveling, cowardly behavior! Such is behavior normally associated with the worst kind, the most degraded specimens, of women.
Note: I was open and vocal about my support for the Resistance during my days there. I spoke about it openly, and feared no one. I tried to start a Resistance group, and personally promoted/advertised Fr. Pfeiffer's Masses (I know it sounds strange today, but this was back before Pablo, Ambrose Moran, and before Fr. Pfeiffer went off the deep end). I spoke to people individually -- I didn't leave anonymous leaflets under peoples' windshield wipers. The entire "core" of the parish knew my name and who I was. My name, address, phone number, and e-mail address were all in the Parish Directory -- and they still are, to this day. So it's not like they couldn't contact me.
Now how can I teach my kids to volunteer for the Church when both of their parents are forbidden from volunteering? The kids won't understand; they will just think volunteering is something "other people" do. Sorry, that's not how I want to raise my kids Catholic. For me, my local SSPX lifeboat is no longer an option. The evils and poison flowing down from "SSPX, Inc." are just too much. Also recall the thread I posted where Fr. Wegner -- the new US District Superior -- visited my old chapel (San Antonio) and tried to tone down our resistance to Vatican II, the Conciliar Church, modernist prelates, etc. NO THANK YOU! Vatican II is LITERALLY like the devil -- it can't be hated enough, or avoided enough.
Teaching children to love and speak the truth is EVEN MORE important. You can't get to heaven without the truth. God is truth. Satan is the father of lies. That much I know for sure. Once I start accepting or tolerating lies and other evils, where does it end? Lies and evil lead to Satan; truth and goodness leads to God.
It really is that simple.I can't subject myself, or my children, to a place where evil is called "good" and good is called "evil". That is no way to form young Catholics.