...Hearing that my boys "consented" to all the sodomy would be COLD COMFORT, let me tell you that as a parent....
... Are they actually sodomites? Are they effeminate and attracted to men and/or boys? Are they rife with perversion, never again to lead normal lives? Do they identify?
A percentage of children/teens experiment to varying degrees with each other since it's secret and hidden but not necessarily for truly ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ tendencies. That's where crude jokes about boys schools and girls schools come from, do they not? ...
So I am forced to wonder which category this story falls into before I can fully convict these boys of being all out sodomites for life who can never get over this or have hope for any normal Catholic future. Experiments for the sake of secret sex and curiosity or truly ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ tendencies for the sake of being ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ? Granted the few people that I know well enough to know their darkest secrets represent a small percentage (I think), but I cannot help that I have seen there's a difference, and it makes me stop short of writing off all these boys to oblivion. In the absence of any proof I prefer to hope they have a chance, especially if they have the Faith, (hopefully) decent parents and confessors, and can be well-directed. But again, I am open to the alternative IF or when it comes to light.

Did someone take over wallflower's account, and someone else is posting in her name?
I can't believe some of what I'm reading here. To minimize the utter seriousness of what occurred at ICA - just unbelievable.
Perhaps the thread is getting too long, and we need a reminder of what happened, from an ICA parent who attended the meeting with Fr. Vassal:
It is very true. ... Unfortunately it is most probably worse than what is posted here. ... The affected children of sodomy, molestation, group masturbation are not receiving any help or counselling. These sins are spreading in the homes to the younger siblings. ...
I have spoken to high school parents. They did seek help, their children sought help. They were ill advised and the boys remained on campus. Its my understanding that not one boy ever was suspended for one day for this behavior. So far, it is established that this has spread to 8-9th grade boys this last school year. At least one family has had an older brother affect his younger brother.
...The horrible actions happened on campus over two school years at least. (There was group masturbation, sodomy, molestation). ... parents confirm that it is ongoing and that many boys are participants and victims. 8-15 boys. At this time there's no telling how many [more] boys. There are many large families involved.
Is that understandable?
To see commentary about how "A percentage of children/teens experiment to varying degrees" etc in the face of the activities listed by pendulum bolded by me above - my mind is reeling, and I don't know what to say. Can anyone imagine St. John Bosco reassuring parents in such a manner? "Hey, a percentage of children/teens experiment to varying degrees, and after all, they might not be full-out sodomites for life; they might grow up to have a normal Catholic future."

BTW, I don't recall reading in the thread that all of the involved are irredeemable, and are 100% sodomite etc. Once again, wallflower, you are the one doing a lot of extrapolating and making assumptions about what people mean and think. Let's certainly hope & pray the boys can come around and lead a good Catholic life someday. But for someone to brush off the exceedingly serious sins going on in that school, or minimize them in any way, and to minimize the damage done to these boys - there are no words.