Dear Meg, Pablo basically runs the whole show. People have brought healthy food for the seminarians, and Pablo threw it away because he had not approved it. Pablo controls the donations, along with his friend Rose. Pablo schedules the Mass trips for the fathers. Pablo posts the videos of the fathers. Pablo basically runs the entire operation in Boston, Kentucky. No one is actually stopping Pablo from visiting his son in the hospital, but I think that, due to his past, Pablo has trouble letting things out of his control. And I can understand that to an extent, because I had an incident in my childhood in which a pedophile who was a "respectable" church organist courted my mother to get to me. I was 10 years old. My mother, who was working 100 hours a week all through my childhood to raise me, basically had a dissociative breakdown, though I did not know what that was til I majored in psych in college. She withdrew, the organist was crazy and Satanic, so 10 year old me had to get in control and fix the situation, because I was the only one rational enough to do so. It took me years to be able to surrender control of my circuмstances to anyone else, but eventually I did. I never sought to control others, so much as keep them from controlling my life, but if the childhood trauma were great enough, then the need for control would be greater. It is so very easy to think, "I am the only one who can get this done right." Then you push away help while wishing you had it. I can empathize, but it is disaster in these circuмstances to have a lay person who is away from the sacraments to have so much control. Pablo is efficient, but he does not appear to be in the state of grace, as no one ever sees him receive the sacraments. My husband and I have been praying and offering small sacrifices for Pablo and Santiago and the fathers. I think it will take a miracle to resolve this situation, but God can do miracles, no problem, if we pray fervently and consistently.