Wow! You should slowly read through what you just wrote. Don't get me wrong--I don't claim to be a bit better than you and fall far short of you in practically every category I humbly admit. But think about the priorities that you are expressing here. You can't make time with the modern conveniences that folks 100 - 500 years ago were able to make with horse and buggy, manual implements and "appliances" and probably even more children??
1. I don't really have a choice. I'm making a virtue out of necessity, really. As I've said, virtually every group including the SSPX does the "revised" Holy Week. So I'm being a bit of an optimist here and giving in to a little Stockholm Syndrome.
2. I'm not talking about just myself -- apparently a lot of Trads don't have time for Holy Week at all, based on the turnout I've seen. So it would seem that it's already a stretch for a modern family to make it.
3. The primary difference between the "olden days" and today is the Crisis in the Church. We have far fewer priests (who have to do MORE traveling), far fewer sacristans, servers, seminarians in minor orders, etc. And today in the Resistance some places start from a blank rented conference room, so *everything* has to be set up from scratch for every liturgical function.
Also, the economy is that much more out of whack, so whereas a man used to be able to support his family with (1) full time job which gave regular vacation time and days off, now he has to juggle multiple part time jobs, and maybe his wife has to work as well. The degrading of the Dollar has caused everything to be more expensive and the cost of living to rise in general.
I spent 3 1/2 years in a Trad seminary, and our Liturgy there was deluxe! Easter Vigil and the subsequent High Mass took a while, since every responsary and gradual was full chant -- no Psalm toning for us. And immediately after Mass we had solemn Lauds with servers in gold copes and everything! Obviously the Seminarians were full-time clerics and they could handle it. But that doesn't usually work in most parishes, for practical and pastoral reasons. Kids don't usually have the patience for it, etc.
There has to be some reason why I've never seen such a deluxe Holy Week since.
Most Trad parishes don't even have Vespers, Compline, or Tenebrae, which was always chanted in common at the Seminary.